In summary, the passion and persistence of grit motivates and carries us over rough seas like a well-made surfboard. We can think of an absence of effort like a crack in our surfboard that needs repair.
I'd like to discuss how therapy (all therapy) works, as opposed to why it works, and how specific people, such as those in LGBT communities, are affected when we presume to know what makes someone mentally and emotionally "well."
"In many ways," said Robert, "the ultimate psychotherapy is simply to relax about things." While it was just a passing comment, the reason it has been humming along inside my mind ever since is that it so directly mirrors the experience I have with my own clients.
For most of us, avoidance becomes a way of life. We barricade ourselves behind an invisible barrier and don't venture out because beyond the wall is pain. This safe space Phil and I call the "comfort zone."