The word "queer" is one that still puzzles many minds today, depending on the context, as it is used now as an umbrella term for a staggeringly diverse community, one that becomes more so every day. However, for non-queer persons, one question remains: "When am I allowed to use the word 'queer'?"
Wait. There's the rub. As a gay man, I can be gay, I can act gay, I can even be friends with other gays, the church loves me just as I am. But I must not act on my orientation, my biology. Is there an app for that?
Michael Sam and Jason Collins should complicate our understandings of athletes not Blackness. They complicate our accepted notions of masculinity. It is not that their race doesn't matter, but their sex has catapulted them in ways others haven't which speaks to a deeper issue.
As you see her up on stage, woozily doing her thing, you can't help but be happy for her. Amanda Lepore finds pleasure in the artifice of her body; with her immensely fake tits and voluptuous lips, she proves that her most authentic self can be all ornamentation.
Want to live in a neighborhood known for being historically gay-friendly? Be prepared to pay for that locale in cities like Manhattan, Boston, or San Francisco, where the average monthly rental cost of a one-bedroom apartment ranges from $1,881 to $2,700.
A friend of mine said that you don't have to be gay to be "queer," and I have to agree, but you can't be straight either. Our educated, empathic straight allies claiming "queer" is as deluded as me claiming to be black because I know when the Windrush landed.
We are living at a time when the LGBT rights movement is making incredible strides, but whether we really have a "community" is highly debatable. I wonder how we can tell the younger generation that it gets better and not prepare them for the stones that will come from their "community."
Why can't LGBTs play nice with one another? Why do we draw lines and exclude whole groups within our collective community? And most importantly, why do we demand equality from the rest of the world and fail to demonstrate equality within our own?
I used to be a transphobic gay man. I remember making jokes. I remember feeling uncomfortable when trans* people would walk into the coffee shop. But something shifted inside me when I saw Matrix co-director Lana Wachowski's acceptance speech for the HRC Visibility Award in 2012.
From my chair, one I've been sitting in for a long time, there are some big issues that are holding the LGBT community back. Many of us are in denial about some of the most obvious obstacles we have -- or have created -- to moving our community forward.