Attraction doesn't care about making things simple, easy, or clear-cut. But I didn't know that. So in response to my pondering I told myself, You like boys, and that's a fact. You can't be gay, so you must be straight.
Queerness is a gift that not all LGBT people have. It's certainly not inherent in that amorphous thing sometimes called the LGBT movement. We are a political, social and sexual minority, and maybe even a cultural one, but we're held together more loosely than most other minorities.
Conventional, traditional, normal: These words stand diametrically opposed to my understanding of queer identity. But after last season's menswear shows I noticed a spate of criticisms lodged against the work that young designers were showing on the runway, specifically for flouting conventions.
A friend of mine said that you don't have to be gay to be "queer," and I have to agree, but you can't be straight either. Our educated, empathic straight allies claiming "queer" is as deluded as me claiming to be black because I know when the Windrush landed.