One of the worst words used against gays used to be "queer." Its not-hidden message ranged from contempt to rejection. Sometimes it announced "enemy." So I find it refreshing to discover that it's now being used in an accepting, even healing way.
In nearly every one of my columns here, at least one reader has demonstrated a problem with my use of the word "queer." Sometimes multiple people have posted objections in the comments to the same article. So, please allow me to make a couple of points.