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Raising Gay Children

Anti-Gay Bullying at School, but Not Like We Expected

Amelia | Posted 11.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My oldest son is now in the fourth grade, and he's never had an incident of anti-gay bullying at school. And that may have lulled me into a false sense of security, because I was caught totally off guard when it happened to his little brother.

Let's Talk About the Birds and... Um... the Birds?

Amelia | Posted 05.24.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My little boy will soon start becoming a little man, and as a gay-identified kid, what kind of sexual knowledge will he need? How will "the sex talk" be different for him? I don't have real answers to these questions, but I am trying to figure it out.

Equality Should Shine Through Generations

Amelia | Posted 05.14.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I have never spent a lot of time thinking about my uncle's orientation, even after my own son told me he is gay. It was only when people started asking me why I am so OK with my son's orientation that it occurred to me: I was raised this way. It's probably thanks to my grandmother.

Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

Amelia | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Part of me gets it. Kids go through phases when it comes to what they like. But the Darren Criss thing? That one hasn't gone anywhere. And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. But another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation.

When Your 7-Year-Old Son Says, 'I Want to Be Gay'

Amelia | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My middle son was tired, so he was nestled against my chest as I floated on my back. "Mom," he said, breaking the silence, "I want to be gay." This was unexpected. My middle son had never had boy crushes like my older kid, and last year he wanted to marry a female classmate.

For Gay Children of Straight Parents

Laura Leigh Abby | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Laura Leigh Abby

Shortly after my wedding my parents were contacted by a writer. This writer, a woman, had seen my wedding announcement in The New York Times. Her letter explained that she was writing a book for the parents of gay children. She inquired as to whether mine might want to be involved.

Raising A Gay Son Is The Same As Raising A Straight Son, Except When It's Not

Amelia | Posted 03.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Yes, at times it is different. At times it is hard, emotional and challenging. It's not something people are used to seeing, which can make them uncomfortable, so it requires extra work of me as a parent. But that doesn't mean it's bad. And he's worth it. All my kids are.

Why -- And How -- We Accept Our Gay Son As Devout Mormon Parents

Jane and Bob | Posted 08.15.2012 | Gay Voices
Jane and Bob

As a faithful LDS/Mormon family, we expected our son Will to follow a certain path. He would grow up, get married, start a family, and be a faithful and active member of the church. But for our family, a different story began around the time our son Will turned 2.

Open Letter to Parents: Your Kid Might Be Gay

Amelia | Posted 03.06.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Make certain your child knows being gay isn't bad, and maybe, just maybe, they won't feel the need to hide if they are. And then they'll have a better chance of growing up into that happy, healthy adult you dream they will become.

A Christmas Letter to My Gay Son

Randi Reitan | Posted 02.22.2012 | Gay Voices
Randi Reitan

There is only one gift I want to give you this year: I want to give you equality. I want to wrap it up in a beautiful box, and I want to put it under our tree right now. I want to see you open it on Christmas Eve and with great joy live with it all your days.

Who Do I Want My Son to Be? I Want Him to Be Himself

Amelia | Posted 01.31.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

When I talk or write about how I consider the possibility that my son might be gay, people sometimes get upset. Why do I want my son to be gay? Why do I encourage him? How am I sure?