Between forkfuls of asparagus risotto, she asked, "What if someone asked you to rate yourself as a mother? What would you say, on a scale of 1 to 10?" It's a waste of time to skirt my daughter's hypotheticals. "Umm, I don't know. An 8?" "What? Why an 8? Who's better than you?" she asked.
Our kids aren't all that different then we were at this age. But their access to social media makes their quickly made decisions capable of being a little bigger, a little louder, have a little more impact, a bigger punch, if you will.
We're so indoctrinated to think of divorce as a bad thing for children, but the more I think about my own life and perspectives on relationships, the more I am certain that they were shaped -- and shaped positively -- by my parent's divorce.
Always a seeker, my journey has now taken me in the direction of unraveling my self talk. By that I mean the voice in my head that is hell bent on me being a "good girl." It's the voice that shames, cajoles and judges everything I do. It's been with me for as long as I can remember.
You deserve an award for not evicting what is surely the world's worst houseguest. Acknowledge that, and instead of beating yourself up for feeling the way anybody would feel if a fellow human had just literally sh*t all over them, pat yourself on the back.
Parents are in a mortal battle and locked in an eternal death match with time. Except the only way we survive it on a daily basis without losing our damn minds is by keeping it on the back burner and putting it out of sight and out of mind for brief periods of time.
When you're a parent you have to make lots of decisions. I haven't check the stats, but I'm guessing it's something like a million decisions every day and it can be exhausting! So it definitely helps to have short cuts to make things easier on yourself.
I like a kid with an opinion. I appreciate a kid who thinks about things, and isn't afraid to speak their mind. They've got spunk. They're usually a lot of fun to be around. There are plenty of positives about these kids.
I had tried many times to be a different, gentler kind of mother -- but what I've finally come to realize is that I couldn't be a gentler kind of mother until I could be a gentler kind of person with myself.
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