Once you begin to completely accept yourself -- in all your guts and glory -- you'll be able to come back to yourself and reclaim your truth. To do this, you need to silence the chatter. The only way you're going to learn what your own voice sounds like is to detach from every other voice out there.
I have a friend who swears by the practice of mindful meditation. I decided to give it a try. After three breaths, I was lightheaded and nauseous. My mind raced, my thoughts jumbled. I heard a million tiny cymbals clashing together. I was out of control! I snapped out of it, resigned that mindfulness was simply out of my reach.