North Carolina is a prime example of unity, collaboration, and promoting recovery throughout the state. Unity within the community is how we beat addiction. What we can learn from North Carolina is that the principles of our personal recoveries should be present as we progress in the broader recovery movement.
I was with my late husband for 32 years. After he died, I planned to melt into my sofa in a haze of dark chocolate gelato and Nicholas Sparks movies. I'd be the woman in the bourbon-stained bathrobe buying the giant, economy Bombay Sapphire gin and twelve Butterfingers at Bevmo. But I "got out there." Too much.
As anyone who gets sober after having spent most of his or her life drinking can attest, the original process is terrifying. I didn't admit to myself I was scared because I told myself I wasn't scared, let alone terrified, of anything. Without realizing it, I'd internalized the idea that I was not allowed to feel fear so instead it came up as other things: either that social anxiety or anger and sadness.
I decide I've been looking in the wrong place for God and begin to morph my beliefs with reincarnation. The books I read tell me that we keep coming back, life after lifetime. This terrifies me because it means that if I don't heal the eating disorder in this life I'm gonna come back and face it again.
In our world's most accepted definition of a parent, I will never meet the criteria. I will never birth a child and I am not adopting one. So you will call me childless. And, I will then emphatically and stubbornly correct you and let you know that I am a childfull parent, birthing a rare kind of parenthood.
When facing the emotionally trying experience of eating disorder recovery, being physically close to someone that you have a positive relationship with can help to alleviate stress, and the oftentimes powerful negative emotions that come with it. Load sharing is exactly how it sounds: you are simply sharing the emotional load.