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Relationship Abuse

Decoding Excuses For Abuse

David Adams | Posted 12.17.2014 | Women
David Adams

It is important for everyone to become more savvy about abuser's excuses because many people unwittingly reinforce them in how we respond to the abuser's "explanations" for his/her violence, and to understand what taking real responsibility means.

Domestic Abuse Survivors Explain Why They Can't 'Just Leave'

The Huffington Post | Nina Bahadur | Posted 09.09.2014 | Women

"But why would you stay if someone was abusing you?" That's a distressingly common response to revelations of domestic violence. After a video was ...

Now Is the Time for Attention to Intimate Partner Violence in LGBTQ Communities of Color

Irene Monroe | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Irene Monroe

Every Monday morning, "Alex" and I met for breakfast at our favorite dive in Harvard Square. I would notice bruises and cuts on his face, arms, and legs, but I assumed that the black-and-blue marks were par for the course for a guy who played scrimmage football on the weekends.

'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 5)

Wyatt O'Brian Evans | Posted 11.04.2013 | Gay Voices
Wyatt O'Brian Evans

It's time to focus on the decision to heal. First, though, let's recap what this atrocious, demeaning and potentially life-threatening behavior really is.

'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 4)

Wyatt O'Brian Evans | Posted 09.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Wyatt O'Brian Evans

It's now time to demonstrate how the victim can make his or her "great escape." But first, let's recap what this atrocious, demeaning and potentially life-threatening behavior really is.

'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 3)

Wyatt O'Brian Evans | Posted 08.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Wyatt O'Brian Evans

So what is the complete cycle of IPV/A? According to Segal and Smith, this behavior falls into a common pattern, which begins with abuse and ends with the setup.

'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 1)

Wyatt O'Brian Evans | Posted 07.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Wyatt O'Brian Evans

I'm passionate about this issue because it's happened to me, and to others I've known. After Alonzo assaulted me one last time, I fought back. And with assistance from my brother-in-law, a cop, I made my "great escape." Finally I entered counseling. I was lucky.

In Defense of Rihanna

Krystie Yandoli | Posted 05.06.2013 | Celebrity
Krystie Yandoli

Is it heartbreaking and sad to see Rihanna and Chris Brown together? Of course it is. It's an awkward and confusing position to be in as fans of Rihanna and spectators in the life she reveals to the general public, but placing blame on her simply isn't helpful.

One in Four Dating Teens Feels Abused and Harassed Through Digital Technology

Janine Zweig | Posted 04.29.2013 | Impact
Janine Zweig

Digital abuse and harassment threatens the psychological and physical well-being of many, many teen boyfriends and girlfriends every day. And the scariest part is that these kids rarely ask anyone for help, even their friends.

Can Relationships Really Make You Crazy?

Susan Saper Galamba | Posted 04.23.2013 | Crime
Susan Saper Galamba

Regardless of whether or not Oscar Pistorius is guilty, something obviously went terribly wrong in his relationship with Reeva Steenkamp.

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

Judy Bolton-Fasman | Posted 10.16.2012 | Impact
Judy Bolton-Fasman

Start Strong's mission is powerful in its simplicity: "Stop teen dating abuse before it starts by using older teens to educate pre-teens."

What's The Cure For Domestic Violence?

Melissa Carter | Posted 10.01.2012 | Crime
Melissa Carter

Domestic violence. We all know what it is, and plenty of money and volunteer time have been spent helping victims of that trauma try to heal. But what we have never really made strides in is stopping it before it happens.

Seeing through the Charm -- Is Your New Love an Abuser?

Ludy Green, Ph.D | Posted 06.11.2012 | Women
Ludy Green, Ph.D

According to the Center for Disease Control, teen dating violence happens more than you may think. Anyone, regardless of education, race, and age, is susceptible to abuse.

Breaking My Pattern Of Victimization, Violent Relationships, And Domestic Abuse

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 05.08.2012 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

I've written about how the pressure to live up to my mother's expectations led me to struggle with suicide after I came out. What I have not talked about is the link I see between the overzealous reprimands I received as a child and my adult choices of violent, co-dependent partners.

How I Convinced Myself To Stay In A Violent Relationship

Cindy Abel | Posted 04.01.2012 | Gay Voices
Cindy Abel

Deeply closeted, we did our best to disguise our relationship. That tension only contributed to what became an abusive situation. In my codependent state, I rationalized her private rage even as she threw things at me: it was my fault; I shouldn't have answered her that way.

February Is Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month

Ludy Green, Ph.D | Posted 03.31.2012 | Parents
Ludy Green, Ph.D

Because teenage years are difficult (and secretive) enough as it is, there are warning signs that every parent and teacher can and should look for.

Shatter The Silence: An Undeclared War On Women

Satpal Singh | Posted 02.26.2012 | Religion
Satpal Singh

For every woman that dies, hundreds keep suffering without any recourse, without any let up in violence. They remain alive, but are not 'living' by any dignified definition of the word.

Learning From My Tale of Abuse

Lea Lane | Posted 10.02.2011 | Women
Lea Lane

For over one year, I was in and out of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. How could I have been so self-destructive and stupid? Judge for yourself, and I hope, learn from it.

The Exact Words That Could Help A Friend In An Abusive Relationship

Glamour | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living

By Liz Welch Glamour More than half of all young women we surveyed have experienced abusive behavior in a relationship. That means someone you kno...

10 Surprising Signs You're Dating An Abusive Guy

Liz Brody | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Liz Brody

There are definite danger sings a guy is an abuser before he ever raises a fist -- and they start with you just having a funny feeling in your pit of your stomach. Here are a few other red flags.

Joe And Jill Biden: Relationship Abuse Is 'Worse Than Being In Prison'

Glamour | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living

By Liz Brody and Wendy Naugle Glamour Vice President Joe Biden and his wife, Dr. Jill Biden, have a stake in the issue of relationship abuse: He w...

Relationship Violence: The Secret That Kills 4 Women A Day

Liz Brody | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Liz Brody

Why is relationship violence still so frighteningly common in 2011? And how can we help? The answer starts with two simple words: Tell Somebody.

Shocking Number Of Young Women Have Experienced Relationship Abuse

Glamour | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living

Very little data exists on the extent of relationship violence among young women. To fill that void, Glamour commissioned an exclusive Harris Inter...

Immigrants Need the Violence Against Women Act -- Let's Stop Blaming the Victims

Rep. Raul Grijalva | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Rep. Raul Grijalva

In the case of countless battered women across the country, the law exists not to protect them but to protect their abusers.

Dating Violence? Maybe Not But MTV's 16 & Pregnant Does Not Make Me LOL

Marjorie Gilberg | Posted 05.25.2011 | Impact
Marjorie Gilberg

There is nothing funny about dating violence. We need to eliminate the stereotypes about dating abuse and spread the truth -- anyone can be a target, anyone can be a perpetrator.