Last week a clown walked into my office, decked out in a creepy clown costume, a painted smile and tearfully asked, "My wife and I are already divorced. Is there something I can do to get her the hell out of my life?"
Proper flirting is about playing, not scoring. Flirting expands our fantasy life and, I would argue, makes our actual romances better. Flirting tests our guile, allows us to practice clever turns of phrase and cool, calculated indifference.
There are experiences in life that require a thick skin. Over 50 dating qualifies. Being rejected or rejecting a lot of first dates can be depressing enough to make a Boomer to want to stay home, eat some Ben and Jerry's, and watch a movie.
We can discuss sex; we can talk about money; we can divulge the darkest secrets about our family history in blog posts and on forums. But when it comes to the fear, doubts, anxiety, and ambivalence that characterize thousands of women's engagement experience every year, we hush up.
Many couples expect their first year of marriage to be nothing short of a fairy tale and are caught by surprise when the first year proves to be filled with challenges as opposed to an extended period of honeymoon bliss.
Virtually everyone in my family had been divorced: grandparents, aunts and uncles. And, most memorably, my parents, when I was four and my sister was two. I'd seen divorce up close and had no illusions that getting married meant "happily ever after."
While I don't suggest you should abandon online dating completely, consider taking a break from the process and return refreshed, along with realistic expectations and digital tools that might increase your chances of success.
I'm tired of men lecturing women on how to behave in relationships and teaching them how to not screw it up. So, here's a little piece I'd like to call "5 Reasons That This Advice Doesn't Make Any Sense."