Neanderthal women dragged by a fistful of hair to their suitor's cave-boudoir were most likely thinking, "If only Lance had brought me that saber tooth necklace I'd asked for, I would have gone willingly."
We reserve every Friday night to go out to dinner, just us. Once we're there, have placed our order and have our glass of wine in front of us, we take turns toasting the miracles that occurred over the past week.
When you are in the "but I love them" space, the main emotion you are using is not actually love but fear: fear of being alone, fear of walking away from something you worked so hard on, fear of having to try to find love again and not finding it.
Seeing the love advice books at Barnes & Noble brought to mind the biggest open secret in today's culture: Most relationship advice doesn't really help you and your partner improve -- or sustain -- your love life.
It's easy to slam one of these symbolic doors shut when our partner disappoints us in some way. But when that becomes the normal way that we respond to each other, the trust, safety and foundation of the relationship is eroded.
Whilst humans don't have the ability to change the past, it doesn't mean we have to let the past define who we are as individuals. And it doesn't have to allow us to dismiss any potential mate, just because they are flawed.