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The Truth About Lying To Someone You Love

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.06.2016 | Divorce
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Many people don't want to lose a relationship that they have so much invested in, so they try and keep their secrets close. While it seems devastating when it is revealed, lying can offer an opportunity for couples to go deeper and understand where each of them stands, and what each of them really needs in the relationship.

Beyond Fifty Shades: How to Star in Your Own Dominant/Submissive Movie

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 02.28.2017 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

With the phenomenon of Fifty Shades of Grey, Rihanna's S&M and other popular representations, Dominant/Submissive fantasies are coming out of the dark...

10 Surprising Facts You Didn't Know About Life Coaches

Tom Casano | Posted 02.26.2017 | Healthy Living
Tom Casano

Above all, having a life coach is a valuable tool, and it is one of the best resources anyone can have on their path to career success. They aren't just there to tell you what to do, but they help you meet your real self.

What You Don't Know About Desire Is Killing Your Sex Life

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 01.04.2017 | Divorce
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

It seems that everywhere we look we see couples in long term relationship suffering from challenges in their intimacy and sexual connection. More than...

New Year's Resolution - AFGO

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 12.30.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In case you are not familiar with the acronym AFGO, it stands for Another F****** Growth Opportunity and New Year's resolutions are just that. We have an idea for how you can make a resolution that can enhance your sex life and strengthen your relationship potential.

5 Ways To Stop Holiday Stress From Taking Its Toll On Your Relationship

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 12.09.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Holiday gift giving and family visits can add emotional and financial stress. We came up with this list of pointers that can help you and your partner stay connected during the holiday season so that you can experience the love and joy of the holidays instead.

After the Fall: Moving Beyond the Honeymoon

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 11.18.2016 | Weddings
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Many people are so addicted to this phase that as soon as a relationship starts moving towards the stability and deeper certainty of long-term love, they would rather move on to their next one.

Attraction: The Reasons You Choose Your Partner May Surprise You

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 11.12.2016 | Weddings
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

While it is true that part of attraction is physical, much of it has a lot more to do with familiarity (and often physical attraction is also based on particular kinds of familiarity). It is no coincidence that the root word of "familiarity" is "family."

What Is Love? The Answer May Surprise You

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 11.04.2016 | Divorce
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Of all of the couples we see in our practice, the couples who have the most successful relationships know, or learn, that intimacy grows and is sustained not just in moments of connection, but in moments of tension.

The Secret to Getting What You Want in Your Relationship Is Asking for it

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 10.20.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Expecting your partner to know what you want without ever asking is tantamount to thinking they are a master detective who can deduce all of your wants and needs by tracking subtle clues. While you may feel your clues are far from subtle, you may be surprised how differently each person processes information

If They Loved Me, They Would Know What I Want

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 10.14.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Even if you are dating a professional psychic, they will not be able to predict all of your sexual and emotional needs, especially as they shift and change over time. The idea that "if they loved me, they would know what I want," is one of the most harmful romantic myths actively circulating.

Sex Therapists Advice: Don't Wait 40 Years to Get Your Toes Sucked

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.28.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

We once worked with a couple who had been together for forty years and came to us desperate to reignite their spark. When we started engaging them in a dialogue about their favorite sexual acts Courtney volunteered, "One of my favorite things is having my toes sucked." Her husband's eyes widened.

Non-Monogamy Realness: The Pros and Cons of Honest Outsourcing

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.16.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Whenever we talk to anyone about non-monogamy, the first question we always get is "Yes, in theory, but do non-monogamous relationships really work?" The simple answer is yes.

Outsourcing Honestly: How Opening Up a Relationship Can Make it Stronger

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.07.2016 | Weddings
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

The belief that a lifetime of monogamy is the only way sets people up for a lot of pain and failure, as even most monogamous folks (a few unicorns aside) will generally have more than one partner in their lifetime.

An Introduction to Outsourcing (Not the Donald Trump Kind)

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.25.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In all relationships, we are in an ongoing negotiation of desires, boundaries, and capacities. Each of us needs to honor the other's desires and be as honest as possible about our own, knowing that we will sometimes feel disappointment in the face of differences.

Relationship Lessons Learned From The Ashley Madison Hack

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.20.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Ashley Madison's cleverly manipulative tagline "Life is short: Have an Affair" is appealing because it offers a shortcut to getting certain needs met. We agree with Ashley Madison in that "life is short", which is exactly why honestly communicating your desires is so important.

How Your Parents Set You up to Get Divorced

Laura Doyle | Posted 10.21.2014 | Divorce
Laura Doyle

There are more effective, modern advances in revitalizing relationships that weren't available to our parents, who only had All in the Family to study from. Here are some that mom never told you about.

9 Things You Should Never Say To Your Longtime Spouse

Shelley Emling | Posted 06.09.2013 | Fifty
Shelley Emling

The words that will make your partner shut down or start a fight.

Total Energy Makeover UPDATE: Beginning a New Relationship

Heide Banks | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Heide Banks

Letting go often means exploring past regrets and judgments about old relationships. Until we engage in these necessary steps, it's easy to say we're open to love when we simply are not.