Online communication will never be as valuable or as real as an old fashioned, face-to-face conversation. Next time you're using a dating app while commuting or standing in line for a coffee, I challenge you to look up, and start a conversation with someone.
Doing these two things -- setting an intention each morning and reminding yourself throughout the day to listen more and speak less -- will help you reprogram your brain for better empathy and understanding.
In the last five years, our relationship has been many things: fierce, devoted, fractious and corroded by sorrow and loss. It's nice to be in a healthy relationship, suddenly, with my mother. We agree. Together, we look forward to spring.
Need some assistance finding the "right" friends for the current season of your life? Try some of the following ideas to get yourself started:
In this post I am going to take some of the best learnings from our February Book Club book, The Honest Truth About Dishonesty (by Dan Ariely) and the most interesting tidbits from the research on deception.
I know that I want this for my daughter, for her to feel everything. So whenever she points out her heart I remind her: keep it open. Allow yourself to be vulnerable because this means that you are loving someone fully. And it's a magnificent way to love.
For those of us who have tendencies toward codependency, learning to stop focusing so much on other people and start to focus more on yourself can be very difficult and damaging. Here are three ways to start taking care of yourself when you're codependent...
Life is too short. We are entitled to be human. Sometimes we make mistakes and rub people the wrong way. What defines us is not those who are able to avoid confrontation, but those who are able to deal with it.
Puddles form in the darkened driveway, in proportions of The Nile; thunder cracks it's whip menacingly, in the universal language of "Go back to bed, you idiot." "It's letting up," she tells you brightly as she peeks out through the front window.
According to psychological scientist Edward Lemay of the University of Maryland, our desire to bond with another person in a close, committed relationship is so strong that it can bias our thinking, distorting attention and memory and interpretation so that we see and believe what we want to be true.
My forehead throbbed with tension. It hurt to swallow and my eyelids were red, puffy and raw. I didn't care and let the tears out. They were extra salty as they combined with the sweat caked onto my face before landing at the corners of my mouth.
For many, this is a journey they were not prepared to take, and don't want to take. Once we finally come to our own self-acceptance and choose to change gender we want everyone to be excited for us, but often neglect to understand the impact on those we are in relationship with.
I had no desire to get married again and then BAM, there I was in the middle of a park with over 100 people watching me say "I do" to the man who once was the boy I first fell in love with.
So be free in flaunting your romantic feelings. Connect with them on a daily basis. No matter what our inner critic tells us, there is nothing foolish about allowing ourselves to be lovesick. There may be more to lose, but there is also much more to live for.