"We weren't ourselves when we fell in love, and when we became ourselves - surprise! We were poison. We complete each other in the nastiest, ugliest...
We've all heard the same axiom time and time again... Never mix business and pleasure. So what do you do when you decide you want to launch a startup with your spouse?
One thing to remember: there will be times when one area needs more attention than another, but you can't neglect one completely. They work as a whole to keep you balanced, happy, and living an authentic life.
I was no longer the girl my husband married, but I realized it before it was too late because he was too kind to tell me. It terrifies me to think how different my life and that of my children might have been if I had ignored the warning signs and not put my marriage on the list.
"Men are crafty, yes, and we help them by choosing to ignore the red flags in the relationship. If we're comfortable, and we like the guy, we're going to wear our blinders and hope for something more."
One size doesn't fit all. A woman attracts a man based on who she is as an individual, not just by her looks, body and charm.
If you say you're going to call, call. We have lives too, but if you tell us you'll call us, chances are we're excited about that. When you don't end up calling it either shows that you're flaky or you simply don't care.
Bullying a bully with zero-tolerance doesn't work. We're systematically applying the same treatment of exclusion that created the bully in the first place, and then expecting it to help. Rewiring these systems can only come through the slow process of building bonds and relationships.
When you get married, hopefully you know a lot about your husband. How many kids he wants, his views on spending money, how he can open another Gatorade, forgetting that he's left four other half empty bottles in every room of the house. But you might not have thought about how you and your husband would differ socially and what that might mean to your marriage.
How do we restore the institution of marriage within the black community? The lines of communication between black men and women have to improve.
None of us is perfect; most of us are doing the best we can. So keep searching for a part of someone that you can empathize with, even when it's a stretch. You may not always succeed, but keep trying.
"What do you want for dinner?" "What do you want? What do we have?" I said. "Let's check the freezer."
People love to give lip service to the idea that mothers' bodies are beautiful, life-giving, wondrous, magical. Our partners tell us we're desirable and hot. And we want to believe they mean it. That doesn't make it any easier to believe it ourselves, though, when we're looking in the mirror.
Beneficial control is the control we have over choosing the intent to learn about love. Harmful control is when we attempt to control our feelings rather than learn from them, and attempt to control others and outcomes.
New shoes are like new relationships. We instantly fall in love at first sight. We buy into them with all of the altruism and hope for their wear. That is until we put them on for a trial run. Some shoes, although beautiful, will give us blisters, bunions and cause pain.
Technology, far beyond email, has enhanced amorous expression: phone sex, sexting, Skype, Gchat with or without video, FaceTime and there's always Snapchat, for the cautiously erotic. There's even a vibrator that can be controlled with an app.