Wait. There's the rub. As a gay man, I can be gay, I can act gay, I can even be friends with other gays, the church loves me just as I am. But I must not act on my orientation, my biology. Is there an app for that?
No matter what our perspective on the morality of same-sex relationships may be, it is time to discern where all the energy fueling this controversy is coming from and whom it serves.
For everyone's sake, it's long past time to stop claiming that right-wing Christian revulsion in response to same-sex romantic love has anything to do with the Bible. Nothing in scriptures prohibits a kiss between two men.
I'm still a radical, political queer and Kristyne is still a conservative, Catholic girl, and I am so happy that we were able to work together, despite our differences, to produce EastSiders.
Despite the societal thrust to make sure we are all having a rip-roaring sex life, sex and emotional well-being can be uncoupled -- they are not necessarily linked, as the cultural imperative would have us believe. Simply, the culture reveres sex and orgasms as if these two "gods" must be worshipped. What about the celebration of celibacy as an equally healthy option? I'd love to see sex therapy include celibacy on the menu of choices for a couple instead of diagnosing a non-sexually active couple as needing a remedy.
The 39th President of the United States identifies some of the most deplorable and widespread acts of gender-based violence -- something he calls "the most serious challenge facing us now" -- while taking special issue with the religious persecution of women.
I have a dream that one day we will live in a more enlightened nation, in which all will be respectfully treated -- even those who "make us" feel discomfort.I have a dream that one day we will live in a world, in which all will be offered acceptance -- even those whom we do not understand.
Living from a place of fully loving every part of yourself, especially when confronted head-on with the haters, is not only the path to a deep spiritual awakening; it is exactly what Jesus faced on His own prophesied path.
I just find it hard to believe that this wandering rabbi and his gang of 12 surely horny men were unmarried and celibate.
No matter how many times someone stands up with blood on their hands and says, "I massacred this Christian because you allow two people of the same gender to marry each other," it does not make it true.
I've been deeply hurt by the judgment and anti-gay discourse of Christian communities. I still can't believe what I hear coming out of the church -- no pun intended. But a few months ago I started a challenge to go back to church.
I have a pastor friend who is now stuck leading a huge church from which he would be fired the moment he so much as intimated that he was thinking about changing his position on the gay issue.
Looking back, I can't help but laugh at the irony of the situation. We failed to see eye-to-eye on the simplest of doctrines, but had zero problem meeting crotch to crotch in the middle of the night.
It is time for those who see little or no theological validity in the blessing of same-gender partnerships to stop pitting the presence of God's grace in committed LGBT relationships against the "weak" consciences of Christians "over there" who supposedly cannot handle it.
When a white, atheist psychotherapist has lunch with the founder of Depressed Black Gay Men (DBGM), they each get food for thought.
I find the belligerent blame-thrower much too regularly in the church. Something goes wrong and this person's default posture is "it's not me; it's you."