I didn't have a clue about marriage when I nervously knelt to take Valerie's hand with a spanking new engagement ring in pocket. I just knew that I loved her, which is a beautiful start, but not nearly enough to make a marriage last two decades.
We started to question adoption. Is adoption, we thought, not often a definitive solution for temporary problems? If these problems were more seriously addressed by social services and with less time pressure, would these adoptions have been necessary?
It's not necessarily lead singers that "have left, or abandoned" their bands, it can be growing in different directions. Or it can be a band no longer swimming in the same direction. It can be hard to admit it when a band has run its course.
With the Supreme Court's Holly Lobby decision, an ugly piece of history is being repeated. Religion is being used as a tool to take away freedom. Discrimination is not Christian. Discrimination is sin.
ENDA would allow a Catholic hospital or school to fire a lesbian nurse or janitor or cafeteria cashier simply on the basis of her sexual orientation. That is a much broader exemption than allowed for any other group under the 1964 Civil Rights Act. And it's abhorrent.
I'm going to make mistakes and I do my best to learn from them. I have forgiven myself because I believe that marriage is mostly about growth and growth requires change and change often comes with pain.