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Ronna Benjamin

Why I'm Still Crabby After Two New Boobs

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 11.09.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Today is Friday morning, and the second morning in a row now that I'm grabby. Of course I don't mean GRABBY -- I mean CRABBY, and it pisses me off that I wrote grabby instead of crabby, because it shows how out of it I am that I can't even type a word correctly as I say it in my head.

The One Quality You Need To Survive Your 50s (And Beyond)

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.20.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Without resilience, you're screwed. But with it, life can be better -- as long as you make the climb up and the climb down -- step, by step, by step. And try to remember dessert.

The 25 Questions And Statements That Immediately Age You

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.11.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Here are just a few examples of statements and questions that I have heard come out of my very own mouth (and from friends) in the past few weeks ... all of which I think immediately age you.

Why You Should Go To College Family Weekend ... After It's Over

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.05.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Lucky you, it's almost Family Weekend! It's been a whole month and a half (has it really been that long?), and you're looking forward to giving that great, big, hairy kid a hug, to meeting his friends, to getting the 'real deal' on his roommate, to visiting the campus in 'full swing.'

Please, Women, Stop Whining About Your Empty Nest

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.05.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I'm tired of women whining about their Empty Nest Syndrome, like it's a degenerative disease -- a time to mourn, fester in loneliness and abandonment. The fact is, I don't know any mother who hasn't completely embraced their empty nest eventually, and usually they do so by Thanksgiving.

18 Things Kids And Parents Should Know Before Kids Leave The Nest

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

That got me thinking. What are the basic life skills should we be teaching our kids before they leave the nest? What should they know? Here are a few.

I Had To Ask My Kids What 'Delete Your Account' Means

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.16.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Apparently, I have just blown in from Stupid Town. The words everyone seemed to be talking about last week, 'Delete your account,' made me feel old and out of touch.

How Your Sense Of Humor Changes With Age

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.16.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

What amazed me was how funny I still found potty humor. I told friends, and I laughed. I told my husband, and I laughed. I laughed out loud numerous times by myself in the car.

Why Don't Parents Drug Their Kids Anymore?

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.24.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

A woman recently told me that years ago, when she was about to take her two babies on a long plane trip, she sought out the advice of a British mother...

Why You Really Should Go To Your 40th Reunion

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.24.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Among us, we have had seven husbands. We have had two divorces, if you count the one currently in process. We have had one death of a spouse. We have had one breast cancer survivor. We have had to worry about money. We have traveled the world. We have married much younger men.

18 Random Acts Of Kindness To Spread Cheer

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.30.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I had been inspired by all the stuff in the news about happiness lately. And people had been so nice to me in these last months of treatment that I tried to make a list of things that are free-or almost free- that can make someone else feel happy. But I couldn't remember anything.

8 Things Every Breast Cancer Patient Should Know

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.11.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

'You can make an appointment to see us in six months.' Those words, from my oncologist's PA last week, were the sweetest words I have heard in a long time. For while I still have three weeks to go with my daily radiation treatment, I seem to be done for a while with at least one doctor -- the oncologist.

What The Hell Does My Daughter Do For A Living?

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 03.29.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I envy the moms who can describe in one or two words what their kid does for a living: Doctor. Teacher. Accountant. Ah, the beauty of simplicity! For those of us who lack a basic understanding of the tech world, who have a child employed right in the thick of that world, we have a harder time.

What It's Really Like To Be A Bald Woman

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 01.25.2017 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Recently, on New Year's Day, I got out of bed with just a trace of a hangover, ran my fingers through my hair, and took a bunch of strands with me to the bathroom. What a way to start 2016, right? It got worse from there.

24 Types Of Friends Everyone Will Recognize At Midlife

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 09.28.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I started categorizing my own friends, all of whom I love dearly, but most of whom have their little quirks. I asked around, and started jotting down my own list. And here it is: 24 Types of Friends Everyone Will Recognize At Midlife.

Why I Delayed Cancer Surgery And Why It Was Totally Worth It

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.28.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

In reality, even with 19 and a half hours, getting anything done on the boat other than eating, drinking, peeing, sleeping, is not easy. Maybe it's the rocking. Maybe it's the birds, the clouds, the soft crests of the sea. Maybe because it is so very easy to sit and look out at the ocean and completely space out.

How To Say Goodbye To Your Family Home

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.10.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

My father died in our family home in 2011, my mother this past November. Now it is time to say goodbye. No 'thing' has ever been part of my life for over a half century. So I am not really sure how to properly say goodbye.

Sorry, Ben Affleck. Marriage Should NOT Be Hard Work.

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.08.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Contrary to what everyone seems to think -- experts in the field, friends, therapists -- even Mr. Ben Affleck -- I don't believe marriage has to be work. I know this because I have been married 31 years, and I don't consider my marriage work at all. And neither does my husband.

Why Bridal Showers Should Be A Thing Of The Past

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.02.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

So what's the deal with the bridal shower? Today, bridal showers are totally superfluous and 'mostly joyless' (a recent description from my good friend who attended one the other day) events. It's not about the love -- it's just about getting more 'stuff'. It's defunct and it's totally lame.

17 Things You Should Never Say To A Friend With Breast Cancer

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.25.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I don't want to sound like an ungrateful bitch but I feel the need to vent a little. I have cancer, so you will have to forgive me.

Can It Be Better After 50... With Breast Cancer?

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.15.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Just when I thought I might be running out of things to write about, God blessed me with a whole new topic that will keep me busy writing for weeks, perhaps years.

50 Things I No Longer Feel Guilty About Now That I'm 50

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.11.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Because it's (almost) always better after 50, I'm done feeling guilty ... how about you? Here's what I'm not feeling guilty about any more...

How I Finally Quieted My Mind

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.21.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

My eyebrows need a good tweezing, my hair is a tangled mess of curls, and I haven't even thought about makeup. I've been wearing the same shorts for the past four days. I haven't been to the gym. Every morning I wake up in a big, overwhelming fog. And I haven't been reading. Sound like a case of depression? I understand if it does.

5 Reasons I Hate When You Are Late

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.05.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

"Sorry, I'm late" whether in person, by text, or by carrier pigeon, just doesn't do much for me, because you can't give me back the time I have wasted waiting for you.

Why I Decided To Learn A New Language After 50

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 09.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Last week I took my first Spanish lesson. Apparently, I am as qualified today as I was at my last language lesson almost 40 years ago. Surely, when I travel to Costa Rica this winter, I'll be able to dazzle the kids with my ability to converse with the locals.