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Ronna Benjamin

Why I Delayed Cancer Surgery And Why It Was Totally Worth It

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.29.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

In reality, even with 19 and a half hours, getting anything done on the boat other than eating, drinking, peeing, sleeping, is not easy. Maybe it's the rocking. Maybe it's the birds, the clouds, the soft crests of the sea. Maybe because it is so very easy to sit and look out at the ocean and completely space out.

How To Say Goodbye To Your Family Home

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.10.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

My father died in our family home in 2011, my mother this past November. Now it is time to say goodbye. No 'thing' has ever been part of my life for over a half century. So I am not really sure how to properly say goodbye.

Sorry, Ben Affleck. Marriage Should NOT Be Hard Work.

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.08.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Contrary to what everyone seems to think -- experts in the field, friends, therapists -- even Mr. Ben Affleck -- I don't believe marriage has to be work. I know this because I have been married 31 years, and I don't consider my marriage work at all. And neither does my husband.

Why Bridal Showers Should Be A Thing Of The Past

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.02.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

So what's the deal with the bridal shower? Today, bridal showers are totally superfluous and 'mostly joyless' (a recent description from my good friend who attended one the other day) events. It's not about the love -- it's just about getting more 'stuff'. It's defunct and it's totally lame.

17 Things You Should Never Say To A Friend With Breast Cancer

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.25.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I don't want to sound like an ungrateful bitch but I feel the need to vent a little. I have cancer, so you will have to forgive me.

Can It Be Better After 50... With Breast Cancer?

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.15.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Just when I thought I might be running out of things to write about, God blessed me with a whole new topic that will keep me busy writing for weeks, perhaps years.

50 Things I No Longer Feel Guilty About Now That I'm 50

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.11.2015 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Because it's (almost) always better after 50, I'm done feeling guilty ... how about you? Here's what I'm not feeling guilty about any more...

How I Finally Quieted My Mind

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.21.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

My eyebrows need a good tweezing, my hair is a tangled mess of curls, and I haven't even thought about makeup. I've been wearing the same shorts for the past four days. I haven't been to the gym. Every morning I wake up in a big, overwhelming fog. And I haven't been reading. Sound like a case of depression? I understand if it does.

5 Reasons I Hate When You Are Late

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.05.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

"Sorry, I'm late" whether in person, by text, or by carrier pigeon, just doesn't do much for me, because you can't give me back the time I have wasted waiting for you.

Why I Decided To Learn A New Language After 50

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 09.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Last week I took my first Spanish lesson. Apparently, I am as qualified today as I was at my last language lesson almost 40 years ago. Surely, when I travel to Costa Rica this winter, I'll be able to dazzle the kids with my ability to converse with the locals.

What My Mother Had To Say About My Hair

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 09.07.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I was sipping on a glass of Chardonnay. My niece was sipping on an iced tea; my mother was drinking water -- apparently the "unfiltered" kind.

11 Reasons Why You Need Do To Wash Your Jeans More Than Once A Year

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.06.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Last week, Chip Bergh, the CEO of Levi Strauss & Company, caused quite a stir. In response to a question about how often we should wash our jeans, he admitted that he hadn't washed the jeans he was wearing in a year. Really, a whole year.

What The Contents Of Your Purse Say About You

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

In front of us, piled on a highly glossed wooden table, was an assortment of keys, lipsticks, mascaras, and hand creams. There was one tube of foot cream, two bottles of Advil, one bottle of Excedrin, and assorted prescription drugs. There were tea bags, nail files, perfume, hair brushes, make up, one extra large bobby pin, a dozen hair elastics, pens, and several bottles of hand lotion.

43 Things Every Woman Would Like To Say To Their Hair

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.22.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

At 50-something, my hair still seems to be the bane of my existence, and I know I am not alone.  Hair seems is big topic of conversation amongst women of all races, ethnicity, and age. But at midlife, there is a big part of me that wants to look in the mirror and say to my hair, 'enough about you already!'

25 Things I've Learned About Being A Daughter In My 50s

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.06.2014 | Women
Ronna Benjamin

My mother is fiercely independent, and if she has her way (and I know she will die trying) she will always take care of herself. Still, the mother/daughter relationship changes for us lucky ones who still have our mothers at mid-life.

What Will I Do With All That Money?

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.01.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

If you are a Costco shopper, you know there is no such thing as a small Costco mistake. When you buy one of Costco's oversized products, open it, use it a bit and then find you actually aren't too keen on it, you live with the consequences -- potentially for years.

I Finally Figured Out Why I'm So Tense

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.24.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I don't like anything in life that takes more than an hour and a half. I don't like my time wasted. It's hard for me to accept or tolerate delay, difficulty or annoyance without getting a little peeved. In short: I'm impatient.

The 8 Best Reasons For Swearing

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.19.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

A really good friend of mine, a well-respected lawyer, in his late fifties, was late for his daughter's swim meet. Tense and a little bit lost, he realized he was heading in the wrong direction, so he pulled into a parking lot to turn the car around. As he drove out into traffic, he cut off another driver.

10 Essentials to Help Your Kid Rent an Apartment in NYC

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

When your kid needs to find an apartment in Manhattan on a budget (our rule is it can't be more expensive than on campus housing), you can't help but get a little tense.

How Candy Crush Has Changed My Life

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

A friend asked me the other day what I was reading, and I gave her a blank look. 'Uh, I don't know.' 'What? You can't remember?' 'Right. Give me a second.' And it was then I realized that I hadn't been reading at all lately. I looked at my shoes and suddenly remembered I had somewhere to be.

Why The Wife Has To Be Thinner Than The Husband

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.03.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I think I have a problem with my husband. He is health conscious and fit and he has will power. Wouldn't that be enough to make you nuts when you don't? I am addicted to ice cream, chocolate and jelly beans. He can pass up dessert and skip dinner. With shoulder surgery this winter, he has been particularly conscientious about what he puts in his mouth.

Naked in the Locker Room: Part 2

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.20.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Within minutes, the locker room erupts with naked women and partially-dressed women screaming at each other about exhibitionists and ecological indifference. Towels are being thrown. Breasts are swinging. It's the partially clad versus the totally naked.

10 Reasons Women Should Never Go Naked At The Gym

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.20.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I was getting dressed in the locker room at my gym last week when I overheard a conversation between two ladies about the tough cardio class we had all just barely survived. One lady was in her bra and panties, the other naked, but for a towel. I looked over at them, about to commiserate on the ass-kicking, when I realized the woman in the towel looked familiar.

What You REALLY Should Say To Your Overweight Teenager

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.07.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Yes, I agree, talk about health is key, as is a focus away from body image and on being a good person. But the fact is, we really don't want our children to be fat -- not only because it is unhealthy, but because in our uber competitive world, a fat person is less likely to be hired, or to be asked on a date -- and yes, all of that matters. Unfortunately, what's outside matters too.

Badass Grandma

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I have a special fondness for Badass Grandmas, and truly, I hope someday to be one (side note to my children: No rush).