I'm hoping The Dark Matter of Love will be seen by as many viewers as possible who will feel compelled to put pressure on American and Russian officials to reach a compromise, as least for the in-process families.
A few weeks ago, a filmmaker for Radio Free Europe spent the day with my family at our home in upstate New York documenting our "ordinary" moments. Olga Loginova, the filmmaker, wanted to show the world there are "successful Russian adoptions."
On my younger kids' birthdays, my husband asks me in passing, "What time were they born?" before catching himself foolishly. They've started turning away when they hear this, cognizant of the fact that none of us know. But, here's the truth: They are mine, and they aren't.
As the lives of Americans -- and almost everyone else -- become increasingly transnational, states will realize that they can negotiate over children, students, lovers, the ailing and the elderly just as profitably as they have always done over arms and chicken feed.
In 2005, my wife, Amy, and I adopted three children from Russia. As we were wrapping up those adoptions, we saw a document indicating that our new daughters had older siblings. It took us another year and a half to locate them, but they are now part of our family of eleven, too.
I have two children from Russia. I have a special place in my heart for Russia and want my children to also have that special place in their hearts. At the same time, I do not understand how the children who are in orphanages should really be pawns in political games.
For those of us fortunate to have adopted internationally, especially from Russia -- my ancestor's homeland -- the headlines are maddening and saddening. I am especially struck as I think back to the adoption of my two youngest, from Russia, and the undeniable obstacles we endured.
We all need to go deeper and do better to advocate and protect children globally. We need a wider strategic plan for every bad moment when children can't have permanency and can't have what they are entitled to have: quite simply safety and love.