No one envies a soldier's mother. The worry. The sleepless nights. The fear that your child will suffer harm, both physical and psychological. Especially in Israel, where I live, military service is tough and dangerous. So, how is it that I find myself envying parents whose children are soldiers?
Acknowledging difference and variety says nothing about a person's competence, or intellect, or morality. So rather than seeing threat, we should embrace all shades of gender, whether snips and snails, sugar and spice, or somewhere in between.