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The Life-Changing Question a Stranger On a Bench Asked Me

Debra Carpenter | Posted 07.31.2015 | Parents
Debra Carpenter

All the things I so often say to my daughter flashed into my mind, and they all had one thing in common. I wasn't focusing on making memories for my daughter -- I was obsessed with the future and constantly hurrying toward it. And why? I had this awesome, perfect present to enjoy.

Reflections on Being a SAHM (Stay at Home Mom)

Lakshmi Iyer | Posted 07.31.2015 | Parents
Lakshmi Iyer

Hold that thought right there. No, this is not another post debating the relative merits of working or not working. Or being a mom or not. :)

Don't Buy Into the Mommy Wars

Mary McLaurine | Posted 06.12.2015 | Parents
Mary McLaurine

I find the term offensive and inflammatory. War? Are we weapon-wielding barbarians incapable of understanding another woman's life choices?

Dear Stay-at-Home Mom

Kimberly Zapata | Posted 06.03.2015 | Parents
Kimberly Zapata

You are not a bad person for lamenting the loss of you, for yearning for the person you were before you were a parent -- before you were "so-and-so's Mom."

5 Ways to Know If You Are A Stay-at-Home-Working Mom

Catherine Pearlman | Posted 05.28.2015 | Parents
Catherine Pearlman

SAHWMs don't have time for a wasted minute. When SAHWMs are working, they get eight hours of work done in five. If a memo comes home from school that a diorama of the water cycle will be due next week, the SAHWM wants to lead the coup to overthrow the administration.

A Mom Is A Mom Is A Mom

Aimee Atkinson | Posted 05.11.2015 | Women
Aimee Atkinson

I was emailing when I should have been playing, and playing when I should have been emailing. I felt like I couldn't fully dedicate myself to either thing and therefore felt half as good an employee and a mom

Revoking My Stay-at-Home Mom Card

Melissa Mowry | Posted 06.29.2015 | Parents
Melissa Mowry

But I don't talk about those things because I worry. I worry that if my day doesn't seem hard enough or chaotic enough, I'm not doing it right. I worry that my husband (and maybe the rest of the working world too) thinks I'm getting a free ride on the gravy train.

Who Has it Harder: The Working Or The Stay-at-Home Parent?

Natalie Thomas | Posted 06.27.2015 | Parents
Natalie Thomas

We're no longer on an even playing field. We haven't been for some time now. The ground seems slanted, the court warped,the turf tainted. Whatever sports analogy you conjure, things are far from even. And the "call" is in the eye of the beaten-down beholder.

Confessions of a New Home Schooling Mom

Kari Wagner-Peck | Posted 06.23.2015 | Parents
Kari Wagner-Peck

7-year-old's don't give one whit that you have given up your identity or that you are sacrificing yourself for their well-being. So, don't point that out to them. It's the equivalent of blood in the water for shar

They Won't Remember the Clean Towels

Stephanie Ortiz | Posted 06.16.2015 | Parents
Stephanie Ortiz

The kids were gone for a few hours, and when they finally returned, their smiles were bright, and their cheeks were glowing... from both the sun and the massive ice cream cones they'd eaten. And I'd missed it.

5 Reasons I'm Not Picking Up the Phone When You Call

Stephanie Ortiz | Posted 05.23.2015 | Parents
Stephanie Ortiz

There are days when I manage to overcome these obstacles and cram in some quality phone time. But generally speaking, it isn't going to happen. Mea culpa. Text me, maybe?

When Later Never Comes

Rachel Engel | Posted 05.19.2015 | Parents
Rachel Engel

Any husband and father worth his salt will tell you that coming home to happy kids is so much better than coming home to a clean house... and the best ones will come home and tell you how awesome you are as they unload the dishwasher for you.

I Don't Like Being A Stay-At-Home-Mom, And That's OK

Melanie McKinnon | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Melanie McKinnon

I find more meaning and validation by working outside my home, teaching people something I that love, than in making my children breakfast.

Kindergarten And The Real World

Shari Medini | Posted 05.10.2015 | Parents
Shari Medini

When you are a mom of little kids, you can choose to stay home all day for no particular reason. You can cancel plans and play on the floor all day. Now, keeping my son home for a lazy day would be an unexcused absence.

5 Things You Should Never Say To A Stay-At-Home Mom

Amy Nielson | Posted 05.09.2015 | Parents
Amy Nielson

Some mornings, it take a great deal of determination to not slip into some heels, run out the front door and beg for my quiet, organized cubicle back. That is why it infuriates me when a working mother says to me: "I could never be a stay-at-home mom."

Full-Time Moms Pursuing 'Anytime' Jobs

Berenice Bojorquez | Posted 05.04.2015 | Parents
Berenice Bojorquez

Full-time moms are so hungry for economic independence that many of them are willing to take on any challenging job they can encounter. The problem is that society is still taking baby steps on this topic, either not offering mothers a chance, or giving them inadequate options.

The Identity Crisis of Motherhood

Meredith Ethington | Posted 04.11.2015 | Parents
Meredith Ethington

My identity does not depend on someone else's view of who I am. It only depends on my own view of it.

I Have It All, Just Not All At Once

Mary Katherine Backstrom | Posted 04.08.2015 | Parents
Mary Katherine Backstrom

I stole one last glance from that penthouse window after packing up my desk. Ten years of claws-out determination, and I was headed home for the foreseeable future. Goodbye, career.

What An At-Home Parent Is Really Worth

Bret Spears | Posted 04.04.2015 | Parents
Bret Spears

Being a stay-at-home dad, I have man-danced a time or two with insecurities about (not) making that sweet coin. Stacking paper. Procuring pork products and delivering them to my domicile. Um, money.

It Takes a Village to Raise a Mom

Kathy Radigan | Posted 03.30.2015 | Parents
Kathy Radigan

In my 16 years of being a stay-at-home-mom, I've had my share of tough days. It's not easy to be the primary caregiver of three kids. Especially with a husband who starts his long commute into NYC around 7 each morning and usually doesn't get home till past 9 each night.

Why Do I Have To Be A Stay-At-Home Mom?

Rachel Toalson | Posted 03.25.2015 | Parents
Rachel Toalson

We get really good at debating what's best for the children, but sometimes what's best for the children is what's best for us.

My (Foolish) Quest To Be the Perfect Mom

Kathy Radigan | Posted 03.22.2015 | Parents
Kathy Radigan

Armed with the skills I accrued during my 10 years of working in the corporate world as an assistant to various financial executives and all of the parenting books one person could read, I set out to be my ideal of the modern, educated stay-at-home-mom.

Does Being a Stay-at-Home Mom Make Me a Good Example For My Daughters?

Lisa Witherspoon | Posted 03.16.2015 | Parents
Lisa Witherspoon

I wonder if they see (or will someday see) my lack of a formal career as an expectation of who they should be as adults.

Why 'What Do You Do?' Is the Wrong Question to Ask

Ann Cinzar | Posted 02.08.2015 | Parents
Ann Cinzar

"I work from home" provides no information. "Nothing," while tempting, belies the truth. "I work for my husband," makes me feel like I've set the feminist movement back 60 years and I'm riding shotgun with Betty Draper.

The Stigma of Being a Working Mom in Mexico

Carmen Castro | Posted 01.20.2015 | Parents
Carmen Castro

I've been judged for sending my daughter to daycare since she was 3 months old; accused of being shallow for not wanting to conform and live a more modest life with just one salary; and even told, "I'm so sorry you can't have more kids, because there's no way you can handle it."