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Same Sex Parents

Who Is In a Gay Family?

Amelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Amelia

"Are you a gay parent?" asked the stranger. Without a second's thought, I responded, "Yes! My 8-year-old son is gay." It wasn't until later that I realized that that wasn't what he was asking. He was asking whether I am a gay person who has kids. But that experience made me think about another.

An Open Letter to Guido Barilla

Casey Carey-Brown | Posted 11.27.2013 | Parents
Casey Carey-Brown

The time has come for the hate to end. The world is ready for those in power to step forward for equality. If you aren't ready to join them, then please, just quietly step back.

Lesbian Mom On The Most Important Parenting Lessons She's Learned

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Mary Malia for YourTango.com No girl starts life thinking, "I'm going to be a lesbian mom when I grow up!" As a child, if you're thinking about...

Babies! The Natural Next Step Following Same-Sex Marriage

Nathan M. Schaefer | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Nathan M. Schaefer

The state of New York has a draconian law on the books that currently makes it extremely challenging for couples to have full legal protection over their children, whether they're adopting, using a gestational carrier or have no biological ties to the child they're raising.

Seeking My Anonymous Sperm-Donor Father

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

I did once seek out my biological father. A front-page article had hit The New York Times, and I was suddenly spammed by 6,000 well-meaning friends emailing me about DonorSiblingRegistry.com.

'Won't Somebody Please Think of the Children?!' NOM Continues to Peddle Hysteria

Sunny Bjerk | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Sunny Bjerk

Organizations such as the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) continue to claim that children with gay parents suffer severe emotional and mental abuse, even going so far as to argue that they are more likely to become child molesters than children raised by heterosexual parents.

The Gayest Weekend Ever (PHOTOS)

Elizabeth Baudouin | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Elizabeth Baudouin

There's so much to be said about the road leading up to your aunts and your moms getting married in the same weekend, from pretending your mom was straight so that you could get through seventh grade to coming out yourself to a tribe of first-generation lesbians.

At the Center of the Rainbow Family Explosion

Brandon J. Bankowski, M.D. | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Brandon J. Bankowski, M.D.

We are humbled to do our part in helping the LGBTQ community start or grow their families. Helping same-sex couples, men and women who probably wouldn't have dared to dream a dream this big just a few years ago, is life-changing work as physicians.

Being a Part of The Next Generation of Equality Activists

Daniel Raphael | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Daniel Raphael

All my life, I have been raised by lesbians who have been together for 32 years and I assumed most people accepted it. It was not until I got older that I witnessed the kinds of discrimination that gay Americans are subjected to.

'What Do You Call Your Moms?'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

This question is difficult, because it is both personal and political. This feels to me like the sophisticated version of the needling question "but which one is your real mom?" except of course this question, about who gets to be called "Mommy," is more legitimate.

What My Daughter Needs To Know About Our Family

Casey Carey-Brown | Posted 10.09.2013 | Parents
Casey Carey-Brown

How do you tell a 4-year-old that people think our family is wrong? How do you teach a child to find a teacher or a police officer or another parent to help her if someone says something to her about her family?

Why Neil Patrick Harris Is Just the Worst

Mark Vigorito | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mark Vigorito

I have taken my children to playdates only to witness the palpable, growing disappointment of the other parents when they realize that we are not, in fact, the Harris-Burtka family. (How sweetly their names hyphenate. Now try hyphenating Vigorito-Horowitz with a straight face.)

Why Are Gay Parents Still Struggling For Acceptance, Post-DOMA?

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Samantha Escobar for YourTango.com Last month, we reached two big milestones in the gay rights movement: the overturning of DOMA and Prop 8. Wh...

Bray Away the Gay

Mike Diamond | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mike Diamond

I've reached a conclusion: I'm not gay. Oh, don't misunderstand me. I am definitely homosexual, 100-percent. Honey, I loves me some big, juicy mens. I just don't have the trappings to be a 21st-century gay. I am what I think of as "post-gay."

After the DOMA Decision, We Face an Impossible Choice

Aly Windsor | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Aly Windsor

Do we stay in North Carolina and raise our children around extended family in a state that denies our family the rights and protections of marriage, or do we leave extended family, friends, jobs, and neighbors behind to raise them in a state that values and protects us just like any other family?

An All-American Dad... Almost

Dan Bucatinsky | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Dan Bucatinsky

The kids want to fish. Damn. I'm going to have to dig for worms. I hate worms. They're icky. But the dad I'm aspiring to be doesn't say words like "icky." Why can't I be more like those other kinds of dads? Wait. Is this just internalized homophobia? Probably. So what am I saying?

When 'Mama' Is Her First Word

Doug Rigg | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Doug Rigg

After the "M" bomb went off, a barrage of questions entered my already crowded brain, questions I'm sure many gay dads have pondered: How are we going to explain our unique family to our daughter? How do we explain the concept of having a biological mother who is not actually her parent?

Deciphering Hate Speech: How Coded Words Like 'Family' Breed Contempt

Dr. Joe Wenke | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Dr. Joe Wenke

Usually hate speech is pretty direct. A good example is the Web address for the Westboro Baptist Church. But sometimes hate speech isn't direct at all. It may even be a little bit involved. Consider, for example, how anti-LGBTQ organizations use the word "family."

The Supreme Court Rulings and Same-Sex Marriage

Alton Abramowitz | Posted 08.28.2013 | Weddings
Alton Abramowitz

While same-sex married couples celebrate the Supreme Court's rulings this week, they should also make an effort to always stay informed of any additional legal developments that could directly impact their union.

Lesbian Mom in Colorado Could Be Among First to Receive Green Card When DOMA Is Struck Down by Supreme Court (VIDEO)

Lavi Soloway | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Lavi Soloway

For Cathy and Catriona and their three children, everything is at stake. If the Supreme Court strikes down DOMA, Cathy could immediately receive approval of her green card application. If the law is upheld, she will be forced to move thousands of miles away from her spouse and children.

Good Enough to Parent but Not to Marry

Cynthia Godsoe | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Cynthia Godsoe

Many opponents of same-sex marriage argue that children are harmed by being raised by lesbians or gay men. Not only do the data clearly refute this claim, but if those making the argument genuinely believed it, why would they endorse adoption by these parents they consider harmful?

The Arsenal Is Empty

Jason Howe | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Jason Howe

Any Supreme Court victory for backers of Prop 8 and DOMA will be a Pyrrhic one. One by one, their arguments have been exposed as falsehoods and have no power as American society moves toward full acceptance of LGBT rights. Their arsenal is empty.

'My Two Daddies (Can Beat Up Your One)'

Brent Almond | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Brent Almond

Many have said how great it is that I wrote the song for my son, and how special it will be for him when he's older. But if I'm totally honest, I wrote it just as much -- if not more -- for me. I wrote it to convince myself that I am worthy of being equal, of being respected, of being a parent.

A Family Like Any Other -- Sort Of

Jason Howe | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Jason Howe

Two toddlers anxious to hop in their parents' bed. Two parents trying not to start the day any earlier than necessary. It's a struggle repeated every day across the country, except that the two parents in question are both men, the babies born via an egg donor and surrogate mother.

Lesbian Moms Allegedly Denied A Family Membership At Children's Museum

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

A Florida-based lesbian couple is crying foul after a local museum allegedly refused to offer them the standard price of a family membership. Kare...