Just small samples at first, until I get you hooked on the power of it. You jones for the moment you can use your no on someone or something. Then that moment happens. Someone asks for something you are just not feeling like giving right then. And no takes over and it spills out of you. Elation and joy ensues. You are hooked and I'm on to the next corner of yessers.
At the end of the day you're left with you -- or whatever's left of you after energetic transactions with the outside world. Don't lay your head down each night in a deficit. Expending more energy than you're bringing in is just like going into financial debt, only it's far, far more costly in the long run.
I've written about how being a chronic people pleaser can be devastating to your career, your relationships, and your self-esteem. Many of you responded to that post by sharing that how hard it is to "just say NO." It was once hard for me too. And sometimes, it still is. It takes lot of courage to say NO.