At the end of the day, it all comes down to how we handle it. Our ability (or inability) to live in reality and deal with change can say a lot about us and our outlook on life. And unbeknownst to many, it can also be indicative of how successful we will be and how far life will take us.
For the first year after the divorce was final, my auto-response to just about every question that flew out of the mouths of my three sons was "YES!" It was an automatic, rapid-fire and knee-jerk reaction to each and every query.
Do not fear the NO. It may seem like a powerfully intimidating two letter word. But for such a tiny word, NO is profoundly liberating. When you decide, "This does not warrant my immediate attention, or this is counterproductive we're not doing this" you embrace your intuition.
A psychologist probably would have had no problem putting two and two together, but it took me a little longer to come to a conclusion on my own. A back bend is the physical manifestation of opening up, otherwise known as my least favorite activity.
We bring alive the spirit of Radical Acceptance when, instead of resisting emotional pain, we are able to say "yes" to our experience. The instant we agree to feel fear or vulnerability, greed or agitation, we are holding our life with an unconditionally friendly heart.
I decided a few months ago that I wasn't having enough fun. So I set out to accept all invitations that came my way for parties, fundraisers, art openings and happy hours. It's amazing how many opportunities pass by your view in any given month if you aren't looking for them!