Standing in the shadows next to happy couples celebrating their love and marriage benefits is something no one wants to talk about: in establishing a legal foundation for marriages that last, the marriage equality movement also has laid a safe, clear, and legal path for those people like Tracie and me, who have decided to divorce.
So, if inherent in the ruling is the underlying acceptance that everyone is equal under the law and that our relationships are legit, therefore there is no reason to hide our relationships or enable others to hide: This is the "new" gay-positive/post-bigoted America: The court has basically said so.
For many of us, as the sole black person in class, we are called upon to represent our race's view on the atrocities that occurred in the past, cringing as we try to articulate a water-downed version from a chapter of a history book. Yet, we are expected to be grateful for that seat and not fight for others.
Despite the Supreme Court's decision to make same-sex marriage legal, many employers are deciding to continue offering benefits to unmarried domestic partners. They see providing benefits--to both same- and opposite-sex domestic partners--as a way to ensure employees and their loved ones are happy and healthy.
A young gay writer just published an opinion piece telling people to stop displaying the rainbow flag colors on their profile photos. Why? Because "[g]ay pride is not something you can claim by waving a flag." Because "[t]he rainbow symbol is easy to co-opt, but the experience it represents is not." Because these people "were celebrating a victory they had no part in winning."