When you shift your focus from the should to present moment, you gain power and clarity to shift into a more authentic state of being. It requires commitment, willingness, and even some discipline to keep shifting moment by moment. The truth is, each moment is all we really have anyway. Choose wisely in this moment. Surrender your should's and experience freedom.
I don't like crying, and I rarely do it. This said, I believe in experiencing life and its difficulties rather than glossing over them. It's been a powerful experience for me to acknowledge how I feel, and to sometimes acknowledge that I don't like feeling this way, and to remember that just because I'm angry, or sad, or overwhelmed in this moment right here, this doesn't mean that it's permanent either.