Self-awareness is defined as "knowing self well," but put in the context of divorce, I think it means having the courage to look in the mirror and say, "Hey, a lot of this (or all) was my fault." That is something I rarely hear from any men or women getting divorced. Many refuse to take any accountability for the split.
When I ask audiences to describe the best and worst boss they have ever worked for, people inevitably ignore innate characteristics (intelligence, extraversion, attractiveness and so on) and instead focus on qualities that are completely under the boss' control, such as passion, insight and honesty.
You won't find your ideal partner by being who you think they want you to be. Now, don't get me wrong... you may get them in the heat of the moment. But this will ultimately lead you into a fantasy of a relationship that leaves you feeling unfulfilled and unseen further down the road. That only leaves you with one other choice...be yourself.