Transforming your life involves going beyond the way you live, co-creating a better life for yourself, and changing the way you live. You do this by using your thoughts, visualization, words, faith, actions, or a combination of them.
How we figure out who we are is based on the feedback we get from other significant people in our lives, or reflective appraisal, It is something we all do especially when it comes to our personal beauty. For me, being disabled, with and without the wheelchair, I often have eyes on me.
The simple truth is this: Our self-concept is our destiny. So if we want to change our destiny for the better, we need to change our concept and beliefs about our selves also for the better. We always have the freedom to choose better thoughts.
This study suggests that people feel that their own self-concept is influenced more strongly by what they have done than by what they own. Another series of studies in this paper explores perceptions of self by others.
Parents sometimes ask their children this question when they're acting up or arguing. It's not a sincere question, but rather a way in which parents try to assert control, to put their children "in their place." Sometimes, though, we find ourselves asking this question of ourselves as adults.
You are what you do. It's a case of mistaken identity that is hazardous to your health, life, and even the work you do. In a 24/7 world where we're always on work mode, there's little escape from the identity that's not you.