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Self Definition

'Maestra,' A Conversation with L.S. Hilton

Mark Rubinstein | Posted 05.09.2016 | Home
Mark Rubinstein

Photo: Derrick Santini L.S. Hilton grew up in England and has lived in Key West, New York City, Paris and Milan. After graduating from Oxford, she st...

The Woman in the Empty Room: We Are Not What We Own

Colleen Berge | Posted 01.18.2017 | GPS for the Soul
Colleen Berge

We can be made anonymous by too many possessions. Rather than being defined by them, we become overwhelmed by them. Lost among them; uncertain of who ...

I Don't Always Feel Like A Mom

Toni Hammer | Posted 04.21.2015 | Parents
Toni Hammer

I've been a parent for over two and a half years now, and I still don't identify as a mom. I mean, I know I'm a mom. I have the stretch marks, sippy cups and sleep-addled brain to prove it. But I don't quite feel like me in this new mom skin yet.

The Question I Wish Colleges Would Stop Asking Us

Isabel Song | Posted 04.23.2014 | Teen
Isabel Song

We don't usually cut the fluff and really talk about what lies inside. When a college asks, "Who are you?" most of us will give generic answers. Many will talk about extracurricular activities and the things they like to do. Yet if we're honest with ourselves, are we really that simple?

Who Will Define Our Children?

Jan Cloninger and Rosemary Strembicki, LCSW | Posted 04.06.2014 | Parents
Jan Cloninger and Rosemary Strembicki, LCSW

Do we want them to be like us, or totally different? Do we care about the lifestyle they choose as long as they find happiness? Do we have the courage to help them figure out who they are without imposing our mirror on them?

Giving the Children What They Want

Bernadette Noll | Posted 03.11.2014 | Parents
Bernadette Noll

The other day, I took my high schooler out for breakfast after all the others were tucked into their respective classrooms. As we sat at the table, I took out a notepad and asked if she was up for a little game called "What I really want is..."

Who Are We Without Our Titles?

Natalie Thomas | Posted 07.20.2012 | Healthy Living
Natalie Thomas

Too often, we define ourselves by our jobs in this world: "I work at X," "I'm so and so's mother, ____'s wife." But when those relationships have expired, matured or evaporated, what's left?

'The Most Important Job In the World'

Barbara & Shannon Kelley | Posted 07.01.2012 | Women
Barbara & Shannon Kelley

We are not our roles. And we are not our resumes. And if that leaves you wondering what's left, well, you're certainly not alone.

Don't Be Defined

Jesse Michels | Posted 05.06.2012 | College
Jesse Michels

Millions of kids feel the burden of appearing successful rather than the wonder of self-discovery. Many unknowingly or unwillingly cave in. They live lives that please peers, parents and institutions rather than their inner-selves.

My Encounter With The 'Spiritual Beatle'

Dennis Merritt Jones | Posted 01.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Dennis Merritt Jones

Back then, I was just starting to get a clue about my spiritual reality, but without a doubt, George was already there. He has often been referred to as "the spiritual Beatle." Looking back at that evening, I can see why.

The Color Bubbles

Eduardo Xol | Posted 11.13.2011 | Latino Voices
Eduardo Xol

For me, it was the first time in my life that I could see a semblance of myself in the leader of the country I was born in. After all, we are both people of color!

Self-Definition Is Self-Limitation

Pavel Somov, Ph.D. | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Pavel Somov, Ph.D.

A self-definition is not self-knowledge: it's self-delusion. You are not limited to any "this" or "that," certainly not until you are finished living. You are un-limited (by words or thoughts).

Defining Yourself: What's Your Life Story?

Steven Crandell | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Steven Crandell

Can we change the past? No. But a life story is far more than a list of past details. It is our interpretation of those details, our creation of meaning.

Teaching Black Feminism and Paying it Forward

Gina Athena Ulysse | Posted 05.25.2011 | College
Gina Athena Ulysse

I also know only too well that in many instances black women are still continually defined through racist and socially limited lenses.