Despite what we may believe, quite often, we are not really seeking our own happiness at all. Many of us don't know ourselves well enough to conceptualize what we actually want. We conform to the notions and ideals of our society, our family and other influences that can drown out our own point of view.
In a discussion with a few other men, the idea came up that women are "supposed" to be the ones that take care of the home and that's why they don't really do too much. Because Islam tells them not to. Our ability to do should not be stifled by a weak argument of whether we are obligated to do or not.