We've been through changes a million and one times, but it still doesn't feel simple. With every change we find ourselves gripping the bar ahead of us on the roller coaster of life. What will be at the top of this hill? Will I make it over and around, upside down and finally to the end without throwing up or giving up?
Listen and relax when faced with a conflict and don't let your self-esteem be rattled. If you do happen to slip into a nonsensical disagreement, let the minor regression only serve to remind you of the giant steps in self-development you have taken. But, don't be smug about it, that would be unattractive.
Despite what we may believe, quite often, we are not really seeking our own happiness at all. Many of us don't know ourselves well enough to conceptualize what we actually want. We conform to the notions and ideals of our society, our family and other influences that can drown out our own point of view.
In a discussion with a few other men, the idea came up that women are "supposed" to be the ones that take care of the home and that's why they don't really do too much. Because Islam tells them not to. Our ability to do should not be stifled by a weak argument of whether we are obligated to do or not.