Your letter is not about your ex being a d*ck. If he were a d*ck, you would have stopped thinking about him by now. But you are thinking about him. Almost a year later, and you're reaching out to me, too. You said you shouldn't be thinking about him though. Has someone told you that? Often our friends do.
I am an extremely busy woman. I have a full-time job, a blog that is another full-time job, I'm an author, mentor and so much more. With all of these other things I also have to find balance between my career, personal life and spiritual growth. Sometimes one has the tendency to overshadow the other.
It's a sad reality that people who haven't been loved adequately in childhood are often loved inadequately in adulthood. Children tune into the messages they receive from their parents. If parents are distracted, overwhelmed by life, emotionally or financially burdened, they can't give their children the kind of attentive love and care necessary to thrive.