We're not just wallflowers or antisocial jerks afraid of being around others. Even the most outgoing introverts can move from well-meaning participators to angry and exhausted if we're not careful. But the first step to having enough energy to spend on the projects (and people) we want starts with taking personal responsibility.
Being a leader is not a title held only by the smartest and the fittest. Sadly most people, especially women, don't see themselves as leaders simply because they don't manage a company, organization or teams of people. However, those same people are parents, partners, volunteers, family members, and friends. All of those roles have a leadership component to them one way or another.