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Self Respect

10 Signs You May Be A Pushover

Sherrie Campbell, PhD | Posted 11.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Sherrie Campbell, PhD

Being nice is an essential quality necessary for success. It is a quality that sustains relationships and makes you someone others want to be around. However, there is a fine line between being nice and being a pushover.

Came and Went: A Dispatch From the Dating Trenches

Josh Sabarra | Posted 09.04.2015 | Gay Voices
Josh Sabarra

Apparently, Sean had one thing on his mind, and it wasn't a subject with any emotional substance. After all, our courtship was just 24 hours old, and he already wanted to have phone sex.

Re: #BlackLivesMatter, Aretha Was Right -- It's All About R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Steve Bhaerman | Posted 08.06.2015 | Politics
Steve Bhaerman

One of the "great" things about polarized, identity politics is that each side excels in bringing out the shadow side of the other. And ... at the same time refuses to face its own shadow because that would be giving ammunition to the enemy.

Marry Someone You Admire, Not Just Someone You Love

Deborah Stachelski | Posted 06.29.2015 | Weddings
Deborah Stachelski

My mother always told me you should admire something about the person you marry. They don't have to be the best looking, the strongest, the richest, or the smartest. But there's got to be that little something that makes you weak at the knees.

The No. 1 Reason to Treat Yourself With Grace

Panache Desai | Posted 05.22.2015 | Healthy Living
Panache Desai

Above all else, you will begin to love the person you see in the mirror every day. The false perception of victimhood will fall away, and the victorious nature of life and living will become your new way of operating in the world.

How You're Probably Letting Others Walk All Over You

Kevin Kleitches | Posted 06.29.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Kevin Kleitches

Realize that there's a difference between bitterness and anger. As Maya Angelou so eloquently put it, "Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. It doesn't do anything to the object of its displeasure." Contrast this with anger -- it's okay to be angry, as long as you channel that energy productively.

The #1 Ingredient To Great And Lasting Love

Lexi Soulios | Posted 06.20.2015 | Weddings
Lexi Soulios

Rather than trying to figure out all the different components of how to make love last, focus instead on creating an atmosphere of respect with your partner. The more you can do this, the more other vital elements of the relationship, like trust, intimacy, passion, love, and so on, will naturally flourish.

What I Did for Love

Patti Murin | Posted 06.20.2015 | Women
Patti Murin

For all of you singles out there, it took me way longer than I hope it takes you to learn what it means to really know yourself. Because if someone really loves you? They won't care if you own a sweatshirt with the logo of their crappy football team on it. And if you really, truly love someone? You'll never even consider buying one.

How I Became Friends With Myself

Shinjini Das | Posted 06.15.2015 | Healthy Living
Shinjini Das

Friendship with the most beautiful of souls, ourselves, is one of the most treasured relationships in our world, and one that frankly, more of us should invest time to nurture.

Let's Get Real: 5 Traits of Authentic People

Irene Ross | Posted 05.25.2015 | Healthy Living
Irene Ross

Being real or authentic is also a much sought-after managerial trait but, used unwisely, it can hurt your growth. In fact, the Harvard Business Review cites an example of a manager who derailed her career because she confused being authentic for lack of confidence.

Time is Running Out -- Slow Down!

Jinny Ditzler | Posted 04.26.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Jinny Ditzler

Do what you're doing when you're doing it. Stop beating yourself up for what you're not doing, and pay attention to what you are doing.

What Is Holding You Back: Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

Lisa Abeyta | Posted 04.12.2015 | Impact
Lisa Abeyta

How many of you remember your first school crush? I remember mine. I waited for the tiniest glimpse of him in the hall on our way to lunch, and at the end of the day, I hurried out front just in case he didn't ride the bus and I might have a chance to see him on the steps talking with his friends.


Jamie Silverman | Posted 03.22.2015 | New York
Jamie Silverman

Why do my coworkers and friends feel a desire or even an obligation to respect me more than someone I'm potentially going to share myself romantically with?

On Dealing with Drunk Guys

Kathleen Buckstaff | Posted 03.15.2015 | Women
Kathleen Buckstaff

I shouldn't be surprised, but I am. I recently read a story that confirmed that women have been dealing with drunk men for thousands of years.

The 'Somebody' Syndrome: Are We Milestone Biased?

Kat Cowley | Posted 03.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Kat Cowley

This isn't about hurtful comment vindication. Upsetting comments and their narrators will come and go -- what it is about a collective cultural tolerance.

10 Ways to Improve Your Body Image

Linsey Hart | Posted 02.08.2015 | Women
Linsey Hart

Culturally, we have this perverse notion that poor body image is a sign of modesty. It's not. And people, especially women, who accept and appreciate the way they look can be perceived as narcissistic. They're not.

A Letter To The One Person I Will Never Impress

Lexi Herrick | Posted 01.11.2015 | Women
Lexi Herrick

The truth is that despite the best of efforts, there will always be people we just aren't meant to win over. Some people will never see past our mistakes. Some people will never stop doubting us. Some people will never be happy with us, and that's OK.

Is Your Guy Ghosting You?

Debra Rogers | Posted 12.30.2014 | Women
Debra Rogers

If all you're hearing is static, then it's probably time to delete his number, because he's finished. Don't be a fool; drop the ghoul. In this case, silence is golden, because you are free to strike up a conversation with a better guy.

A Richer Inner Life

Christine Deakers | Posted 12.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Christine Deakers

There are periods where you become unaware of what brings you the most joy, or what makes you feel most filled up because there are the trivial and no...

The KID Pro Quo

Richard Greenberg | Posted 11.29.2014 | Parents
Richard Greenberg

Over the years, I have observed that by expressing gratitude for the things around us, we have taught our children (and others) to appreciate the things we all have in life -- whether it's a meal, a beautiful sunset, a car that works or a spouse who is an excellent Mom.

My Abusive Relationship: My Metamorphosis

Lani Buess | Posted 11.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Lani Buess

I questioned why I continued to stay. Was it habit? Some sadistic sense of comfort? Did I think we'd change back into the people we once were? I'm not a weak person. I grew up in such a loving home. My parents have a beautiful marriage. What's wrong with me?

Light Up Every Room You Enter

Joy Weston | Posted 10.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Joy Weston

Own Your Magnificence! Not long ago the amazing Dr. Maya Angelo passed away, leaving a legacy of words and actions that continue to inspire us ...

The Golden Rules of Manners, Now and for the Future

Christa Dowling | Posted 09.22.2014 | Women
Christa Dowling

It's all about manners! Not the old-fashioned kind, white gloves and all, but the kind of behavior that will assist you in your daily endeavors through communicating ideas, electronically and otherwise.

Minorities, State Violence, and the Price of Self-Respect

Myisha Cherry | Posted 09.08.2014 | Black Voices
Myisha Cherry

Violence is not the most effective way to respond to injustice, but self-respecting individuals taking a stand together against injustice is. This is a price we all can afford. The question is do we respect each other enough to believe that others and ourselves are worth it?

Vulnerable Young Women Already Have Grit--They Need the Chance to Lead

Courtney Macavinta | Posted 08.30.2014 | Education
Courtney Macavinta

Some people say youth today need more grit or gumption. Some do. But the truth for those of us like me who've survived being traumatized by violence...