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Self Sabotage

Are You Alone, Stuck in a Pattern, and Can't Get Out? 12 Ways Out

Susan Anderson | Posted 08.21.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Are you and anyone you know caught up in cycles of abandonment? Why do people keep repeating the same patterns over and over? What can they do to bre...

Mean Girls Ruining Your Life

Reina Pomeroy | Posted 07.16.2015 | Women
Reina Pomeroy

She is so darn loud! Her voice starts out as a whisper of sorts but turns louder and louder, like she's right next to your ear with a giant megaphone. You think, I wish she would just shut up! Who is she anyway? She's your inner Mean Girl. Your very own, personal Regina George... and she's ruining your life!

4 Ways You Might Be Self-Sabotaging

Diane Passage | Posted 07.09.2015 | Healthy Living
Diane Passage

At one time or another, we have all been our own worst enemies. Who needs an adversary when you can habitually halt your own progress, right? Self-sabotaging happens when thoughts and behavior prevent you from advancing or improving at something, or life in general.

The 3 Rs of Eliminating the Self-Sabotaging Syndrome

Joan Moran | Posted 07.06.2015 | Healthy Living
Joan Moran

Getting in the way of ourselves -- or, as some call this state, being our own worst enemy -- has been around since the dawn of man. Modern psychology ...

Going Head-to-Head With Your Inner Enemy: Using 'The Tools' to Unlock Your Full Potential

Omega Institute | Posted 07.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Omega Institute

I have a saying that peace is an active state of mind. We're trying to combine the sense of peace with the necessity for constant work. Peace was often defined as something languid and laid back, a state where you can fold your tent up, stop making an effort, and stop being vigilant. That's not what peace is.

'The 36 Questions' for Falling in Love: What Makes Them Work?

Susan Anderson | Posted 06.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

The world is full of love-worthy, eligible people looking for a way out of involuntary singleness. They want to put an end to their cycles of abandonm...

Are You Addicted to Feeling Stressed?

Helen Roe | Posted 06.10.2015 | Business
Helen Roe

We were together for quite a while, years in fact. I feel like I'm betraying him by writing this. Fuel this with pending procrastination, looming deadlines and slowly I feel any anticipation, excitement, adrenalin and aliveness overshadowed with that percolating familiar feeling.

How to Survive a Breakup: 12 Ways to Stop Blaming Yourself and Gain From It

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.20.2015 | Women
Susan Anderson

When we experience unrequited love -- a lack of emotional reciprocity from the other person - it is natural to feel insecure and needy. It can cause us to aim our emotional suction cups toward our partner which only succeeds at creating greater distance. Here are 12 things you can do...

Attracted to the Unavailable: 12 ways to Overcome This Self-Sabotaging Pattern

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.14.2015 | Women
Susan Anderson

Why are we attracted to the emotionally unavailable? What can we do about it? Obviously, if we lose interest as soon as someone becomes available, that won't work because we'd be forever chasing and never having a relationship. So how do we get off the hamster wheel?

Resistance and Getting Our Last Bit of Sh*t Together to Finish the Race

Kay Tacke Morse | Posted 05.13.2015 | Women
Kay Tacke Morse

I am losing weight so I can hike with my kids by Mother's Day. I am having back to back Tinder dates because I am finding My Person this year. I am studying Math 101 so I can feel smart. I am reading this book so I do not get kicked out of bookclub. I am dancing so I can feel the Angels when I move.

What Is Outer Child? 12 Tips for Overcoming Self-Sabotage

Susan Anderson | Posted 06.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Most people know they have an Inner Child -- a tender emotional core -- but many don't realize they have an Outer Child -- a hidden nemesis sabotages ...

Is Fear of Success Holding You Back?

Helen Roe | Posted 06.08.2015 | Business
Helen Roe

Can you remember as a child, what you wanted to be when you grew up? I wanted to be a newscaster, so I would be the first person to know what was going on.

How to Improve Your Self Esteem

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.27.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Our "sense of self" is as unique to us as our fingerprints. It represents an accumulation of beliefs -- conscious and unconscious -- about how we perceive our relative worthiness, lovability, and personal power. Based on trial and error, we unwittingly and automatically estimate our rank in the pecking order and how attachment-worthy we think we are.

10 Tricky Ways You Might Self-Sabotage Your Small Business Growth

​Jackie Nagel | Posted 05.09.2015 | Small Business
​Jackie Nagel

From a failure of morale to a failure of methods and logistics, more often than not, the inhibition comes from honest good intentions meeting bad ideas. How might your small business growth be subject to self-sabotage? It's frightening easier than one thinks.

Are You Struggling With Struggle?

Sara Arey | Posted 05.01.2015 | Business
Sara Arey

How much have you thought about struggle? If you're like most people, you try not to think about it. And yet you think about it a lot, especially about how hard it is and how much you hate it.

5 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Dream

Jennifer Twardowski | Posted 04.20.2015 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Twardowski

We all have a dream. To do the very thing that we love to do that makes us feel fulfilled, vibrant, and more alive. The very thing that excites us every day and leaves us in a state of wonder over all of our opportunities for creation.

How I Survived Abandonment: 12 Tips for a Complete Recovery

Susan Anderson | Posted 04.10.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Susan Anderson

I developed the abandonment recovery program after the love of my life -- my marital partner of eighteen years -- suddenly up and left me for another...

Same Problem, Different Year?

Michelle Bersell | Posted 03.09.2015 | Women
Michelle Bersell

The people who give up on change are the ones who end up either crotchety about New Year's resolutions (and life), over do some behavior (think eating, drinking, shopping, sex) to escape their reality to dull out their pain.

3 Simple Questions to Help You Let Go of the Year That Was

Elyse Santilli | Posted 03.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Elyse Santilli

If you feel the desire to reflect on the year that was, here is a simple 10-minute way of celebrating and releasing 2014. Three simple questions for y...

8 Tips for Avoiding Self-Sabotage This Holiday Season

Carol W. Berman, M.D. | Posted 01.31.2015 | Healthy Living
Carol W. Berman, M.D.

The holiday decorations and treats, time with friends and family: Most of us are looking forward to enjoying ourselves with our loved ones. But what ...

3 Ways to Leverage Your Inner Saboteur

Wendy Reese | Posted 01.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Wendy Reese

As you practice this, your saboteur becomes a brilliant guide for staying true to your dream. The process becomes faster and easier. You'll find yourself in flow far more often. It is an exciting relationship to have in balance.

4 Ways To Stop Self-Sabotage In Its Tracks

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 08.20.2014 | Healthy Living

"I can't do it." "I'm just going to do this one more time, then I'll quit." "I'm not ready for this." Chances are we've all thought statements like...

3 Ways Your Fear of Being Alone Sabotages Your Relationships

Sherrie Campbell, PhD | Posted 10.06.2014 | Women
Sherrie Campbell, PhD

If you continue to end up in dead-end relationships, your fear of being alone is probably keeping you with the wrong partners.

4 Things We Must Change to Stop Self-Sabotaging

Lisa Firestone | Posted 09.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.

The Worst Marriage Advice I Ever Gave

Steph Wagner | Posted 08.31.2014 | Divorce
Steph Wagner

I was still reeling in the painful aftermath of learning that my husband of nearly two decades had been living a double life. The father of my three sons and the man I had built a life around, had been having an affair for almost three years.