I am losing weight so I can hike with my kids by Mother's Day. I am having back to back Tinder dates because I am finding My Person this year. I am studying Math 101 so I can feel smart. I am reading this book so I do not get kicked out of bookclub. I am dancing so I can feel the Angels when I move.
Our "sense of self" is as unique to us as our fingerprints. It represents an accumulation of beliefs -- conscious and unconscious -- about how we perceive our relative worthiness, lovability, and personal power. Based on trial and error, we unwittingly and automatically estimate our rank in the pecking order and how attachment-worthy we think we are.
The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.
Changing your mindset to being a victor of your life, sets the stage for you to regain your power. In this state, you are more likely to also stay positive in the face of challenges, experiencing less fear as the stress response is more controlled. More importantly, you are more likely to access your inner fire of motivation -- that fire that drives you to win and achieve.