Divorces are no picnic, believe you me, but the added stress of a divorce on top of an escalating vitamin D deficiency and a growing January specific nihilistic worldview is just about enough to unsubscribe from the outside world and decide you're living the rest of your life in a self imposed Room situation. But I'm here to tell you, don't.
When beginning to venture out into dating life again, it's important to ask oneself these five questions to help clarify what you're looking for in a new relationship. These aren't resolutions, but rather internal conversations that will hopefully fortify your resolve to be connected to the most important elements of the life you want to have.
Alimony. It's a hot button issue in divorce and something many individuals have a hard time dealing with after the breakup. It seems unfair, when one spouse is ordered to pay a hefty sum each month towards the daily living costs and lifestyle choices of their ex-spouse. These individuals are no longer connected, yet the financial obligation continues -- sometimes indefinitely.
Martha told me that she didn't want people to be sad at her funeral. She wanted them to be happy. I told her that there was no way her friends and family could not be sad. That even though they would know where she was going, they would be sad because they would no longer get to see her sweet smile.
Have you seen Inside Out yet? I love a good Pixar movie! I love the way that they explain adult concepts to kids. I think it's really cool. For those of you who haven't seen it yet, don't worry there's no spoiler alert coming. This article isn't so much about the film, but rather how it relates to divorce.
A friend of mine once told me that next to every truth stands a lie, that one person's ceiling is another's floor, and that to follow a truth is like walking a razor's edge -- it's easy to fall off in error. I find defining the difference between evaluation and judgment to be in this fine-line category.