When you decide to divorce, you're placing a bet that your future life will be better than the one you're living now. Even if the odds feel long, it's a chance you're willing to take. Yes, there will be loss. But what you gain may be worth the sacrifice of the lingering, functional parts of an irreparable marriage.
Indulging in financial self-soothing following the stressful divorce process is the reward that many women seek in the days after that Final Judgment is received. Justified trips to Cancun, rationalized days at the spa, and country club memberships are the delicious luxuries we seek, when soothing our aching hearts.