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Handling Your Divorce Like an Air-Traffic Controller

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 03.15.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Going back to our air-traffic controller analogy, it's time to look at the full picture, but take one thing at time. To decrease the risk of mid-air collisions, follow the PEACE acronym: Parenting Plan, Equitable Distribution, Alimony, Child Support and Everything Else!

Why it Took Me 4 Years to get Divorced

Lisa Marie Wilson | Posted 03.13.2015 | Divorce
Lisa Marie Wilson

It's hard to go from a life of marriage to a life of singlehood but millions of people do it every year and to those facing this transition, take your time. Maybe four years is a bit extreme but don't rush the decision to finalize your life apart.

I Laughed When My Father Died

Jaleesa Jones | Posted 03.16.2015 | Women
Jaleesa Jones

Yet even with the space she gave me, I still felt suffocated. Like I was choking on my father's memory. And I was. My father haunted me long before he died.

10 Unexpected Things That Hurt The Most In My Divorce

Samantha Darby Sollenberger | Posted 03.12.2015 | Divorce
Samantha Darby Sollenberger

One of the first times I saw him after our separation, he was in a new pair of jeans and a new shirt. I don't know why this bothered me, you guys. I can't even explain how irrationally upset I was by this. I remember thinking, "Did he buy this for a date?"

How to Send Positive Signs to Your Potential Partner

Sheila Blagg | Posted 03.04.2015 | Divorce
Sheila Blagg

Hand gestures, body language, and different words and phrases can carry hidden meanings, which could mean that your date is totally into you or that they're bored to death.

What I'm Too Ashamed And Devastated To Admit About My Split Out Loud

Samantha Darby Sollenberger | Posted 02.23.2015 | Divorce
Samantha Darby Sollenberger

This is harder because I don't know what my husband has chosen over me. Over Alice. Over our family.

Lessons From Marriage and Divorce

Susanna Sung | Posted 02.17.2015 | Divorce
Susanna Sung

I do not regret the divorce. But I do want to ensure I do not make the same mistakes again. I'll make other mistakes, but not these.

Will You Be... Your Valentine?

Sharon Zarozny | Posted 02.10.2015 | Divorce
Sharon Zarozny

Given the challenges, how can you rescue yourself from going down a tearful path? The key is knowing you don't have to follow the Hallmark notion that romantic, fairytale love is the only kind of love worth celebrating on Valentine's Day.

Has Valentine's Day Got You Down?

Michele Weiner-Davis | Posted 02.09.2015 | Divorce
Michele Weiner-Davis

What if your relationship is on the rocks and Valentine's Day is just another painful reminder that your life isn't what you hoped it would be? Or what if you're divorced and feeling alone. Then what do you do?

8 Ways a Separation Can Totally Backfire!

Stephanie D. Lewis | Posted 02.05.2015 | Divorce
Stephanie D. Lewis

When nothing worked -- as a last resort, we decided to separate. This was done with cautious optimism that both people would work on their "issues" and perhaps a divorce could be prevented. Here's what went wrong! Maybe someone can benefit from these mistakes.

Divorce Confidential: Child Testimony in Divorce Proceedings

Caroline Choi | Posted 01.29.2015 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

In litigated custody battles, clients sometimes ask if their child can testify. This is undoubtedly tempting, especially if your child is saying he or she wants to spend more time with you than your ex-spouse. However tempting, there are a few things you need to consider.

I've Been Left, And I've Done The Leaving. Here's What Both Feel Like

Stephanie D. Lewis | Posted 01.30.2015 | Divorce
Stephanie D. Lewis

Divorce is rarely a mutual decision and each role ("the leaver" or "the one left") has its own unique experiences. Unfortunately I have traveled down both sides of this potholed street, but on each path there were shining green lights after all the roadwork was completed.

What Really Happens When Two or More Agree?

Catherine Nagle | Posted 03.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Catherine Nagle

For me, it is imperative to take the extra time and listen with your heart before agreeing any opinion expressed, and to express myself only with words of love for everyone and everything, since this will become our truth in the end.

5 Divorce Realities You Should Know Before Splitting Up

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 03.13.2015 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

When you decide to divorce, you're placing a bet that your future life will be better than the one you're living now. Even if the odds feel long, it's a chance you're willing to take. Yes, there will be loss. But what you gain may be worth the sacrifice of the lingering, functional parts of an irreparable marriage.

5 Reasons Why I Announced My Divorce On Social Media

Laura Robinson | Posted 03.10.2015 | Divorce
Laura Robinson

I understand that posting hateful comments should never be done. But what about a positive message about a painful life event? Isn't a post without any hate okay?

Respect

William B. Bradshaw | Posted 03.05.2015 | Healthy Living
William B. Bradshaw

In 2015 one of my primary wishes is that all of us will concentrate on treating other people with respect. I have just scratched the surface; I encourage you to give this entire matter some very deep consideration.

Divorce Confidential: Holiday Preparations

Caroline Choi | Posted 02.14.2015 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

Holiday preparations are in full swing. The shopping malls are packed like a can of sardines and if you're like me, you're probably a little overwhelmed and stressed about getting the perfect gift for your loved ones.

Holiday Magic--When You're Coping With Separation & Divorce

Sharon Zarozny | Posted 02.10.2015 | Divorce
Sharon Zarozny

Traditions create the magic of holidays. They keep us grounded. Change, on the other hand, often knocks us off our feet. So how do you cope?

'Let It Go' Is the Ultimate Divorce Anthem

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 02.10.2015 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

The lyrics of "Let It Go" are empowering and positive. They speak to making tough changes and coming out whole. "Let It Go" is an anthem for anyone who's seen struggles and survived. The lyrics resonate while seemingly bringing out the Beyoncé in all of us.

Divorce Confidential: Tips for a Healthy Marriage

Caroline Choi | Posted 01.14.2015 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

Just because you're married, doesn't mean dating goes out the window. It's easy to find yourself in the same monotonous routine once you're married, especially given all the new responsibilities you may face as a couple and as parents.

5 Tips for Managing Parenting Time During the Holidays

Joseph E. Cordell | Posted 01.11.2015 | Divorce
Joseph E. Cordell

So long as you and your ex are able to keep your children as the priority and work to plan everything well in advance, it is entirely possible to begin new traditions with your children and avoid the stress of a bitter holiday season.

Avoiding the Zero Sum Game When Families Split

Claire N. Barnes, MA | Posted 01.11.2015 | Divorce
Claire N. Barnes, MA

So what can parents do in a practical way to not diminish each other during separation? They can start by remembering they are their child's first teacher. Everybody wins when the children's needs are put first.

The Problem With Covenant Marriages and Fault-Based Divorce

Mark Baer | Posted 01.06.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On October 30, 2014, I was contacted by a reporter, who asked if I could explain the Arkansas "covenant marriage" law to them. Among other things, if...

6 Things Your Couples Therapist Already Knows About Your Relationship

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 12.26.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

It's said you can't kid a kidder. But you'd also have to reach a pretty high bar to fool a couples counselor. We've pretty much seen it all. Fortunately for us, we don't have to reinvent the therapy wheel every time we meet a new couple.

How the Judge Wrecked My Perfect Divorce Day

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 12.23.2014 | Divorce
Barbara Greenberg

I was fine with the divorce but upset by what felt like a scolding from a judge. I've asked myself several times if perhaps she was simply acting like any other judge would in this situation. I don't know what the answer is.