After getting myself calm, I could see his threat for what it was -- just a threat -- and an indicator that he was stuck in his emotional brain. He was not rational, but, he hadn't spiraled into a full-blown meltdown, either.
"Screen time" is an issue layered with complexity. Parenting during this explosive device development era demands simple rules and dictums for limiting their use. No question, this is gonna take practice. No reason not to start now.
In actuality, setting limits is a gift to our children. It shows them that we are taking responsibility for keeping them safe. It's a sign to them that we are there to help them mediate the chaos of this world.
Picture this. You are at a holiday party. A relative pushes a humungous piece of pie topped with whipped cream into your hands and says, "Have another piece, it's a holiday after all. You can afford to eat more." How do you respond when you are really not hungry? Try these tips:
My favorite example of setting limits was a company that was chasing a vendor that had not paid its bill in nine months. The company finally sent another invoice, and wrote: "Your invoice is now nine months overdue. We have carried you longer than your mother did." The bill was paid in two weeks.
The debate continues to rage on as to the true role technology is playing in young children's lives, with informed "experts" on both sides claiming the superior stand. Maybe it's the easy way out, but how about everything in moderation, especially for younger children?
Kids have an inordinate amount of power and control in their families. Many parents seem unwilling to be the authority, take control and be firm with their kids. It's as if parents are afraid of "damaging" their kids or their relationship with them if they say, "no."
An outright ban on digital devices won't win your kids' respect -- or compliance. But with a little planning and intentional involvement, you can balance your family's tech activities with much-needed face time. Here's how.