Investigating what is normal in my new weird world of dating, I ask a male friend who dates a lot of women online. He claims that quite a lot of women make their sexual intentions clear in the first correspondence.
Dating 50-year-olds. Most of them aren't really that hot. It's a monumental adjustment. And you don't get that rush you get when you date in your youth. It feels so very different.
I have discovered a new species of the middle-aged single male, and if my discovery wasn't so frightening, I'd be really excited to report my findings. Unfortunately, what I have to say isn't good news for all the middle-aged single women out there searching for a forever partner.
So here I am, your Flag Mod. When you flag that obscene photo or report that fake profile, I'm one of the 'special users' who determines whether it should in fact be deleted, or if you were overreacting.
Twenty-eight thousand people answered a questionnaire about heterosexual mate preferences. As with any research, researchers found that one long-held belief was supported: People with desirable traits have a stronger 'bargaining hand' and can be more selective when choosing a partner.
My sister and I love to head down memory lane, and we even try to drive by our childhood home every time we visit Cincinnati, the town we grew up in. One favorite memory is the party we had where all the girls danced in front of posters of Davy Jones and Mickey Dolenz. Remember how gorgeous Davy Jones was?
Sometimes when we are in a relationship -- especially a long-term relationship -- we get comfortable and fall into a routine. Nowhere is this more common than in our sex lives.
Boomers make feckless comparisons with their parents' generation, like 60 is the new 50. Shaving off 10 years simply because we don't like the idea of getting older is just blowing smoke up our collective butts. But, there is one glaring generational difference, and that's our disparate sexualities.
Reality bites hard. I have been rejected by my first two online dating hopefuls. Invitations to connect are not exactly pouring in. Market research is the answer. I switch gender and take a look at what I would see if I were a bloke. There are so many more women than men out there!
EHarmony, Match.com, Zoosk? I try one and to my horror it's like a computer game or supermarket rewards card. You have to wink at people and earn coins! For what, for goodness sake?
I have a midlife client we'll call Mercedes L'Estrange. She's been working my "Married Sex Resuscitation Program" and was kind enough to allow me to share her most recent story.
You're in your 50s, married around 25 years, with kids recently launched. Over the past few years, while those children were becoming more self-sufficient, you were able to shift attention back to your spouse. Which led to a realization: You are really not happy in your marriage.
My husband bought me a massage table. I'm not kidding. A really good, really pricey table, with accessories! Felty-soft table bedding and a collection of lavender-infused oils and lotions.
have been married to my wife for 40 years. She went through menopause in her early 40s. She had breast cancer two years before menopause. The creams didn't really work, sex just wasn't the same. Since she had breast cancer, HRT is out.
Are we meant to resign ourselves to live out the second half of our lives as though we're holed up in a convent? No! Just because you've reached a certain age, it doesn't mean you no longer have a need for good sex in your life.
Since I wrote a piece about sex after menopause, almost 100 women (and some men) have written me to share their experiences. Some of the emails have been agonizing to read, while others have been inspiring. What I now know about midlife sexuality is that no two women have the same story.