Some men and women after divorce go crazy when it comes to sex, seeking out multiple physical encounters. If that is the case, my opinion is that they are trying to cover up a deep wound with a temporary Band-Aid, and it never works.
It was one of those lipstick vibes. Small, but powerful. It felt odd to use it that first time. I can still remember my hesitancy. I waited until my kids had gone to their father's house for the night, double-checked that all of the doors were locked and headed upstairs to my bedroom.
In certain cases, sex with an ex is sexy and fun and exciting. Temporarily, that is. I have to believe that nine times out of 10 the after effects are disappointment, hurt, sadness and regret. So, be careful.
I will only say this once, but I will say it loud and clear: Safe sex is just as important after divorce as it was before you were married. It's actually MORE important because you now have kids to think about!
I'm not really sure I know a man or woman who doesn't enjoy sex. Those passionate moments that take your breath away are wonderful and exciting and fun! But when it comes to sex after divorce, I want to stress the importance of safe sex.
One of the best solutions to a damaged sense of self-esteem is to go out and date, flirt and see where it goes! I do think the best cure for a broken or wounded heart is to get back into the game and, maybe not find a new love, but the very least, a new lover.
In the year or even years before the final split, sex took on an obligatory role. Now as the judge signs off on your divorce decree, you are left wondering if you will ever be interested in sex again: Is your lovemaking really unfulfilling for your partner and are you still desirable?
I truly think that the first time you have sex after marriage is a monumental experience. It can be traumatizing, scary, sad, or strange, but it can also be exciting, fun, heart-stoppingly great, or over-the-top, out of the ballpark amazing.