We had a fight the other day, a big, messy fight that scared us both. Tim and I dug ourselves in so deeply and so quickly, I wondered if this was the moment that would mark the end of our 28-year marriage.
We are told we don't want sex often enough. We want it too much. We are too made-up. We are not made-up enough. We should love our bodies. We should hate our disgusting bodies. And articles like "8 Things That Actually Gross Guys Out in Bed" are examples of the worst of this kind of shaming.
Instead of thinking of the year ahead as a problem to be solved, we've found we're much more likely to consider the potentials -- without getting stopped by the impossibility of what our creative brain comes up with.
Out on the sidewalk, I have absolutely no clue how this date is going -- and I'm usually pretty adept at gauging the waters. He suggests another (quieter) bar down the street. I take that as a positive.
You've been on your dating site of choice for weeks without much attention at all. You haven't seen anywhere near the volume you were expecting -- or hoping for. There's nothing wrong with you. But there might be something wrong with your dating profile.
You need to say thank you. It can be a tiring place, this happily ever after. Yes, there is love and there are kitchen dances and sweet cream baby cheeks. But there are also sleepless nights and mortgages and post baby stretch marks.
Let's say you sleep with someone on a first date and then you don't hear from him? Or if you are the guy, what if you call and she doesn't return your call? If you've slept with that person, you will feel so much worse!
Feeling safe in a relationship is a process, and couples will need to develop tools and ways of communicating, much of which is non-verbal, to return to the secure feelings once the inevitable flare ups occur.
Well, nobody said marriage was going to be easy but it sure can be a lot more fun when you work towards goals together. Why be angry when you can be sexually satisfied? The choice is yours but the exploration can lead to gratification.