Talk to them -- yes, both girls and boys -- about the enhanced images and videos that they will be exposed to. Tell them that pornography is like false advertising, the goal being to sell and market products, not necessarily to convey truth and honesty.
Sexual intercourse, said Philip Larkin, began in 1963. For unmarried women in America, it began the year before, when a 40-year-old woman named Helen Gurley Brown published a book called Sex and the Single Girl.
The fact that Meryl Streep's new movie "Hope Springs" opened and Helen Gurley Brown died in the same week seems to me a passing of a very important baton. The baton our Post50 generation needs to get us moving toward an honest and candid discussion about sex.
When I found out Girly was actually Gurley, I was taken aback and perplexed. How could I have gone years and years and never known this? I'd felt an affinity for this woman who could appear so relaxed and so at comfortable in her own skin. Her nickname, "girly," made her relatable.
To proclaim to be a "Cosmo girl" nowadays is to have the world look at you with a half-smirk and assume your literary knowledge is limited to romance novels. You're just that: A girl, not a woman.
But that wasn't always the case.
A few months later, Helen called, "I'd like you to write about the female orgasm." "What is that?" I asked. "It's a response women should get from good sex. And most women don't know what it is either."
David Brown, who produced some of the most notable movies to come out of Hollywood, told me that the most important job of a producer is to pick the director, to whom he surrenders utterly. After that, it's to provide lunch.