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Be the Star in Your Own Passion Play

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 02.03.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In this series we introduce the ways that finding the genre of your "hottest sexual movie" can bring infinite pleasure to a relationship.

Does Romance Get You Hot and Bothered?

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 01.26.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In our previous blog we introduced the ways that finding and sharing your "hottest sexual movie" can turn up the heat in your sex life. In this seri...

Discover Your Hottest Sexual Movie

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 01.15.2016 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

You can stop searching Netflix, because your hottest sexual movie is still in the making. Nearly everyone walks through the world with one or more s...

What You Don't Know About Desire Is Killing Your Sex Life

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 01.05.2016 | Divorce
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

It seems that everywhere we look we see couples in long term relationship suffering from challenges in their intimacy and sexual connection. More th...

New Year's Resolution - AFGO

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 12.30.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In case you are not familiar with the acronym AFGO, it stands for Another F****** Growth Opportunity and New Year's resolutions are just that. We have an idea for how you can make a resolution that can enhance your sex life and strengthen your relationship potential.

5 Ways To Stop Holiday Stress From Taking Its Toll On Your Relationship

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 12.09.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Holiday gift giving and family visits can add emotional and financial stress. We came up with this list of pointers that can help you and your partner stay connected during the holiday season so that you can experience the love and joy of the holidays instead.

Sex Is Not Static

Pamela Madsen | Posted 11.19.2015 | Fifty
Pamela Madsen

Traditions are meant to evolve. So you can try to document sex. You can photograph, draw or video tape a moment and put it on Instagram, Facebook, Pin it, or hang it on your wall to savor the memory or share it. But the moment itself is gone.

After the Fall: Moving Beyond the Honeymoon

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 11.18.2015 | Weddings
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Many people are so addicted to this phase that as soon as a relationship starts moving towards the stability and deeper certainty of long-term love, they would rather move on to their next one.

Attraction: The Reasons You Choose Your Partner May Surprise You

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 11.12.2015 | Weddings
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

While it is true that part of attraction is physical, much of it has a lot more to do with familiarity (and often physical attraction is also based on particular kinds of familiarity). It is no coincidence that the root word of "familiarity" is "family."

What Is Love? The Answer May Surprise You

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 11.04.2015 | Divorce
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Of all of the couples we see in our practice, the couples who have the most successful relationships know, or learn, that intimacy grows and is sustained not just in moments of connection, but in moments of tension.

Hotel Sex IS Better Than Regular Sex. Here's Why.

The Huffington Post | James Cave | Posted 10.28.2015 | Travel

If you ever had sex in a hotel room and thought, "Well, that was better than it usually is," you're not the only one. Turns out there are chemical res...

The Secret to Getting What You Want in Your Relationship Is Asking for it

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 10.20.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Expecting your partner to know what you want without ever asking is tantamount to thinking they are a master detective who can deduce all of your wants and needs by tracking subtle clues. While you may feel your clues are far from subtle, you may be surprised how differently each person processes information

The 10 Most Common Complaints Sex Therapists Hear From Couples

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 10.16.2015 | Divorce

What do couples talk about when they sit down with sex therapists? We asked seven sex therapists and psychologists from around the country to sh...

If They Loved Me, They Would Know What I Want

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 10.14.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Even if you are dating a professional psychic, they will not be able to predict all of your sexual and emotional needs, especially as they shift and change over time. The idea that "if they loved me, they would know what I want," is one of the most harmful romantic myths actively circulating.

My Mother's First Climax

Jenny Jedeikin | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Jenny Jedeikin

I look at my father now on the couch -- still hoping for me to reveal the mystery of women, wives like my mother and I who, as he once said to me, "leave their marriages because of sex." Who are we? I wonder.

Forget Everything You Think You Know About Perfect Sex

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 10.07.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In reality, sex has moments where things cinematically flow and moments where you just miss each other. Almost every sexual relationship has some moments of satisfaction and moments of frustration, awkwardness or pause. Sex won't always be easy and usually isn't perfect.

Sex Therapists Advice: Don't Wait 40 Years to Get Your Toes Sucked

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.30.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

We once worked with a couple who had been together for forty years and came to us desperate to reignite their spark. When we started engaging them in a dialogue about their favorite sexual acts Courtney volunteered, "One of my favorite things is having my toes sucked." Her husband's eyes widened.

The Open Relationship Toolkit: 6 Keys To Success in Honest Outsourcing

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.23.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

To begin honest outsourcing takes an acknowledgment that no one person, or relationship, can ever fulfill all of our desires or needs, nor should we want it to. Most people already acknowledge this in one way or another, but when it comes to outsourcing sex or romance many folks feel threatened.

Non-Monogamy Realness: The Pros and Cons of Honest Outsourcing

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.16.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Whenever we talk to anyone about non-monogamy, the first question we always get is "Yes, in theory, but do non-monogamous relationships really work?" The simple answer is yes.

Outsourcing Honestly: How Opening Up a Relationship Can Make it Stronger

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.08.2015 | Weddings
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

The belief that a lifetime of monogamy is the only way sets people up for a lot of pain and failure, as even most monogamous folks (a few unicorns aside) will generally have more than one partner in their lifetime.

An Introduction to Outsourcing (Not the Donald Trump Kind)

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.26.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In all relationships, we are in an ongoing negotiation of desires, boundaries, and capacities. Each of us needs to honor the other's desires and be as honest as possible about our own, knowing that we will sometimes feel disappointment in the face of differences.

Relationship Lessons Learned From The Ashley Madison Hack

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.20.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Ashley Madison's cleverly manipulative tagline "Life is short: Have an Affair" is appealing because it offers a shortcut to getting certain needs met. We agree with Ashley Madison in that "life is short", which is exactly why honestly communicating your desires is so important.

The (Don't) Cheat Sheet: 4 Easy Keys to Avoiding Affairs

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.17.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Make room for each other's disappointment when yours or their needs are not being met. Often, if you are merely allowed to openly and shamelessly ask for what you want and receive the support of your partner in having those desires, that can be enough.

Sex Is Supposed to Be Spontaneous?

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.13.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

There are so many harmful myths about how sex is supposed to happen and one of the worst is that it is supposed to be spontaneous.

Chances Are Your Partner Is Attracted to Other People

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.05.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

When you make room in your relationship to honor the possibility of outside attractions and the feelings they create, it can help you stay connected and engaged with each other instead of developing separate lives where you keep your attractions hidden. Being able to talk about scary topics like outside attractions can even help prevent affairs from happening.