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An Introduction to Outsourcing (Not the Donald Trump Kind)

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.26.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In all relationships, we are in an ongoing negotiation of desires, boundaries, and capacities. Each of us needs to honor the other's desires and be as honest as possible about our own, knowing that we will sometimes feel disappointment in the face of differences.

Relationship Lessons Learned From The Ashley Madison Hack

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.20.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Ashley Madison's cleverly manipulative tagline "Life is short: Have an Affair" is appealing because it offers a shortcut to getting certain needs met. We agree with Ashley Madison in that "life is short", which is exactly why honestly communicating your desires is so important.

The (Don't) Cheat Sheet: 4 Easy Keys to Avoiding Affairs

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.17.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Make room for each other's disappointment when yours or their needs are not being met. Often, if you are merely allowed to openly and shamelessly ask for what you want and receive the support of your partner in having those desires, that can be enough.

Sex Is Supposed to Be Spontaneous?

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.13.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

There are so many harmful myths about how sex is supposed to happen and one of the worst is that it is supposed to be spontaneous.

Chances Are Your Partner Is Attracted to Other People

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.05.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

When you make room in your relationship to honor the possibility of outside attractions and the feelings they create, it can help you stay connected and engaged with each other instead of developing separate lives where you keep your attractions hidden. Being able to talk about scary topics like outside attractions can even help prevent affairs from happening.

Why People Choose to Cheat Even When It Might Destroy Their Relationship

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 07.31.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

While it is easy to blame the people who have affairs as the one who has betrayed the relationship, in our sex therapy and relationship coaching practice, we have found that people don't cheat because they are bad people. But, they do cheat and they cheat for many reasons.

Everything's Negotiable. Here's How to Create a Relationship Contract

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 07.27.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Start with the following assumption: There is no right way to have a relationship and the most successful relationships account for the beautifully unique needs of the people in them.

Is it Possible To Get Past An Affair?

Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2015 | Women
Tammy Nelson, Ph.D.

Making a promise to stay faithful to one person and then breaking it is less about sex and more about lying. Affairs are a dilemma of integrity. If we are at heart a moral person, as most of us like to think of ourselves, how do we preserve our integrity in the face of our desire for variety?

5 Minute Sex Therapy for the Busy Woman

Jill Dahl | Posted 06.08.2015 | Women
Jill Dahl

Women tend to "view sex as something that they are doing for someone else." If we are able to shift our mindset to view sex (or physical intimacy) as something pleasurable we are doing for ourselves, this can shift the power dynamic for couples.

Are You Difficult To Get To Know? Three Ways to Tell

Scott Gornto | Posted 06.03.2015 | Healthy Living
Scott Gornto

It's human nature to protect ourselves from pain. A small child only has to learn once not to touch a hot stove. Likewise, our animal brains quickly learn what experiences--and what people--to distance ourselves from so we don't get burned again.

The Moment I Knew My Low Sex Drive Was Affecting My Relationship

Meg Conley | Posted 05.15.2015 | Women
Meg Conley

I had been married for nearly three years when I stopped wanting to "get busy" with the man to whom I'd pledged my life.

Turning Bedroom "Tricks" Into Treats

Drs. Bill and Ginger Bercaw | Posted 12.31.2014 | Weddings
Drs. Bill and Ginger Bercaw

It is quite possible to overcome bedroom challenges, especially when each is approached as a couples issue and without blame.

How To Kickstart Your Flagging Sex Life

Carol E Wyer | Posted 12.01.2014 | Fifty
Carol E Wyer

There was a time when it was considered inappropriate to discuss sex and sexual anxieties. Certainly, what you got up to in the bedroom was nobody's business but your own. You would probably rather have all your teeth removed with no anaesthetic, than admit to a complete stranger that your sex life had dried up.

Bang for Your Words: Exploring Our Sexuality Helps Us Write More

Loren Kleinman | Posted 11.25.2014 | Books
Loren Kleinman

Art and sexuality share a commonality. Both are often considered provocative. Bad sexual experiences can be frustrating and even traumatizing. The same goes for bad artistic experiences. And great sex, like great art can be stirring and stimulating.

When Sex Addicts Reveal Everything to Spouses

Alexandra Katehakis, M.F.T. | Posted 11.18.2014 | Divorce
Alexandra Katehakis, M.F.T.

Whatever its origin, sex addiction takes a heavy toll on not just the addict, but on all those with whom he or she has formed close relationships.

100-Year-Old Sex Therapist On Having Good Sex At Any Age

The Huffington Post | William Goodman | Posted 08.26.2014 | Fifty

Dr. Shirley Zussman is a practicing sex therapist in New York City. She also just turned 100 years old. And she's applied decades of experience in ord...

What Happened When My Husband And I Had Sex Every Day For A Month

HuffPost Live | Ryan Buxton | Posted 07.31.2014 | Weddings

After a Reddit post claiming to be a spreadsheet of all the excuses a wife gave her husband to get out of sex went viral last week, HuffPost Live's Ca...

Masters, Johnson and Me

Angela Bonavoglia | Posted 02.18.2014 | Entertainment
Angela Bonavoglia

The show is a brilliant trip down America's nightmare lane.

Who's the Real Sex Addict? The Dubious Claims of Ariel Castro and Anthony Weiner

Robert Weiss | Posted 10.13.2013 | Politics
Robert Weiss

Sexual addiction is not defined by either sexual offending (as Ariel Castro would have us believe) or having a high sexual desire (as a recent study would have us believe). Instead, sexual addiction is about escape and dissociation from life.

WATCH: This Sex Surrogate Inspired 'The Sessions'

The Huffington Post | Ryan Buxton | Posted 07.23.2013 | HuffPost Live 321

For disabled people who might have limitations to physical intimacy, solutions can come from women like Cheryl Cohen Greene, a surrogate partner in se...

WATCH: Puppets And Sex Therapy Meet On New TV Show

The Huffington Post | Christina Huffington | Posted 05.07.2013 | Women

If you told us that we would voluntarily listen to another couple's therapy session and wouldn't feel uncomfortable doing it, we wouldn't believe you....

7 Reasons You Might Have Fallen Out of Love With Your Partner

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Unless you are able to learn from and heal your fears, you may get stuck in this negative pattern. Love quickly vanishes in the face of this closed, protective behavior.

What It Takes To Have Great Sex After Marriage

Susan Orlins | Posted 04.30.2013 | Weddings
Susan Orlins

Sexual relationships are important to healthy marriages. But not every healthy marriage is the same.

Meet the Real Sex Surrogate Portrayed by Helen Hunt in 'The Sessions'

Lois Alter Mark | Posted 03.31.2013 | Women
Lois Alter Mark

Going to a prostitute is like going to a restaurant. You choose what you want from the menu, you eat and you pay. With a surrogate, it's more like going to culinary school. You learn the recipes, you learn your way around the kitchen and then you go back to your life equipped with new skills.

Why You Should Talk About Sex Before Marriage

www.cnn.com | Posted 01.25.2013 | Weddings

Editor's note: Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, writes about sex and relationships for CNN Health. Read more ...