We do have a long way to go, even if SCOTUS takes up the issue this fall. But our society is clearly moving in the direction of marriage equality for all. More than ever before, couples of all stripes are demanding equality, freedom and recognition in their marriages, and are refusing to abide by laws that lag behind.
The California state legislature unanimously passed a bill this month requiring universities to redefine their official definitions of consent as an "affirmative, conscious, and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity." The bill's passing is an incredibly needed step in the right direction.
I often hear this question, spoken with anguish, in my office. It's not the real question being asked, but it's the one that's easiest to pose. The short answer is "no." You can't take it back so listen to yourself, think about what kind of experience you would really like, and don't worry how many virgins are wandering around campus.
Just the idea of sex, the opportunity of sex, is enough to quicken the heartbeat, inspire the discipline of exercise and eating right. And once the connection has been established, even with a woman who may not be a perfect match, there is an energy, a confidence, a glow that transforms every cell of our bodies.