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I'm a Woman Who Loves a Woman, but Don't Call Me a Lesbian

Annie L. Scholl | Posted 02.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Annie L. Scholl

I'm a 50-year-old white mother of two adult children, twice married to men, who has been in a relationship with an African-American woman for nearly two years. I don't identify as bisexual. I also don't identify as a lesbian, even though I prefer sex with women to sex with men.

Who Can Own 'Queer'?

Eden Walker | Posted 09.22.2013 | Gay Voices
Eden Walker

A friend of mine said that you don't have to be gay to be "queer," and I have to agree, but you can't be straight either. Our educated, empathic straight allies claiming "queer" is as deluded as me claiming to be black because I know when the Windrush landed.

How Much Gay Sex Makes You Gay?

Allison Hope | Posted 07.29.2012 | Gay Voices
Allison Hope

We'd be foolish to think that judgment wasn't placed on us by ourselves and others based on how we self-identify and how closely that aligns with our actual behaviors. Where is the line between fantasy, desire, bedroom behavior, and identity, and who gets to draw it?

Is One Label Better Than Another?

Amy Shiner | Posted 07.07.2012 | Gay Voices
Amy Shiner

Despite the advances that the LGBTQA movement has made, there is discrimination within the LGBTQA community when it comes to sexual orientation and labels. When I mention in some circles that I am bisexual/pansexual, I am told that I just haven't made up my mind.