We'd be foolish to think that judgment wasn't placed on us by ourselves and others based on how we self-identify and how closely that aligns with our actual behaviors. Where is the line between fantasy, desire, bedroom behavior, and identity, and who gets to draw it?
My own fears were not about the people I loved rejecting me. They were all fears about those outside of my immediate circle of trust and love.... In naming and befriending my fears, their power to confine and define me was deflated.
Ravi's Twitter posts, webcam spying, and homophobic attitude were stigmatizing, and it is possible that these pushed Clementi to a tipping point. But Clementi's suicide did not happen in a bubble with only him and Ravi; it took place in a society in which homophobia is still rampant.
If a former teacher has his way, the game will change forever in Missouri schools. The students will still have their constitutional rights -- it is the teachers who will have to shed theirs at the door.
Recent news stories have announced as part of your ability to gain employment with some companies, perspective employers are demanding your Facebook password -- and now everyone thinks it's a big deal.
Bisexuality is still offered only tentative acceptance in the gay rights movement. Bisexuals are seen as confused, invalid, incapable of monogamy, oversexed, greedy, or going through a phase. The stigma has serious consequences.
It is imperative that colleges and universities give out LGBT students the option to self-identify on the college admission form. This way the campus can take responsibility for the LGBT student experience, their academic retention, safety, and success from the beginning.