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Shame and Me

Esby Rain Duncan | Posted 05.21.2015 | Healthy Living
Esby Rain Duncan

I have been running from myself my entire life. That is the truest statement that I know. It's hard to say, hard to take into myself. But there it is....

Messages From the Playground: Healing Homophobia Before it Begins and Preventing Bullying Before it Starts

Chris Tompkins | Posted 05.21.2015 | Gay Voices
Chris Tompkins

Talking about shame, we are exposing it and nipping it in the bud. Having uncomfortable conversations with children at a young age doesn't put them at risk, instead, it does the opposite. It keeps them from risk.

I'm Admitting My Shame: I. Am. A. Crowdfunder.

Rebecca Jane Weinstein | Posted 05.19.2015 | Money
Rebecca Jane Weinstein

As a three-time crowdfunder let me tell you a little secret: almost no one gets rich. There are a few exceptions, those are celebrities and people pre-selling really cool gadgets.

Are You Causing Your Own Suffering?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Many people, even those who are not alone and have plenty of money, spend much time suffering. It is obvious what the cause of suffering is when someo...

Gay Men and Bottom Shaming (VIDEO)

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 05.18.2015 | Gay Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

2015-05-18-1431962062-5981619-ScreenShot20150518at11small.jpgIn my latest video I break down the psychological nuts and bolts of why we tend to label and judge sexual roles and the gay men who fill them -- pun intended. I describe how this common practice can be limiting, both individually and collectively, as well as what we can do to challenge bottom shaming so that we can all grow, heal, and have better sex. Heels up!

My Lesson From a Homeless Man

David R. Hamilton, Ph.D. | Posted 05.14.2015 | GPS for the Soul
David R. Hamilton, Ph.D.

My soul so wanted to speak, to say something that might make him feel less lonely; it even urged me to hold his hand for a while, but I was embarrassed by how I was feeling in that instant. I simply smiled, touched his hand lightly, stood up and walked away.

Stuttering Is No One's Fault

Katherine Preston | Posted 05.12.2015 | Healthy Living
Katherine Preston

These are the facts: stuttering is not caused by psychological trauma, unsupportive parenting or mental neurosis. Rather, stuttering is a genetically influenced, neurological condition.

How This Mom Reformed Her 'Inner Mean Girl' Once and For All

Michelle Martin | Posted 05.08.2015 | Women
Michelle Martin

One reason why being a mom makes us so vulnerable to self-bullying is because the stakes are so high.

The Mother Shame We All Share

Jessica Rosenberg | Posted 05.10.2015 | Parents
Jessica Rosenberg

I'm a mom who takes good care of her kids, but crappy care of her house. I'm a writer who loves to write, but who rarely lets herself write what she loves. I'm a friend who can't seem to write to her far flung friends. I'm just a woman trying to face her shame so it loses the control it has on her life.

Why I Chose Anti-Anxiety Medication

Elli Thompson Purtell | Posted 05.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Elli Thompson Purtell

Anxiety can make you a prisoner to your own mind. It exhaustively beats your spirit to a pulp. It doesn't go away no matter what you try and how badly you want to change. When decided upon thoughtfully and responsibly, medication can be a lifesaver.

2 Things Parents Need to Grow

Anastasia Gavalas | Posted 04.30.2015 | Parents
Anastasia Gavalas

Providing children with opportunities to build self-confidence and a strong sense of self is what roots them. Individuals who successfully navigate parenthood construct a solid foundation.

The Catch-22 of Shame (And How to Begin to Fix It)

Don Joseph Goewey | Posted 04.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Don Joseph Goewey

Shame is rough on us. It punishes us for our mistakes and drains the joy out of our triumphs, leaving us bereft with its conclusion that we're not goo...

To Resolve or Manage Conflict, You Must Address the Actual Cause of the Problem

Mark Baer | Posted 04.21.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I recently had the most fascinating consultation with a gentleman who was interested in the possibility of my representing him as his lawyer.

Life Is Like Physics

Mark Baer | Posted 04.21.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

What parents seem to forget when they are divorcing or their relationship is ending, is that children are expensive.

Teaching Is Not a Blood Sport

Lev Raphael | Posted 04.27.2015 | College
Lev Raphael

Teaching isn't combat or coaching, especially teaching creative writing. We're not in the classroom to humiliate and harden our students as if they're going into the cutthroat world of business or getting ready for the next football game against a team with no losses. Our role should be to help them grow as writers by identifying what they do best and where they need to do more work.

The Politics of Shame and Pride

Olivia Wilson | Posted 04.19.2015 | Gay Voices
Olivia Wilson

Shame. It governs our lives in more ways than we'd want it to. Any cringe, embarrassment, infraction of social norms; It is a learnt mechanism to pull us back into a narrative that we have been told our whole lives.

Taming the Beast: How I Stopped the Blame Game From Controlling My Life

Lauren Kruczyk | Posted 04.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Lauren Kruczyk

I escaped the cage and found freedom from the wood pellets and stale feeder food. Maybe certain people tried to look for me; maybe they didn't. I didn't care. I was a hamster with a plan. I came to a fork, took the road less traveled and began running like my life depended on it (and hey, maybe it did).

Polio, Cancer - One Nemesis May Counter the Other

Joseph Cooper | Posted 04.10.2015 | Books
Joseph Cooper

For those of us who were spared by fate and vaccine, Philip Roth's Nemesis charts polio's course and brings to mind the friends and neighbors who suffered the withering and the life-long incarceration of limbs.

My Indian Parents Divorced And It Was The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Us

Nishima Gupta | Posted 04.08.2015 | Divorce
Nishima Gupta

My parent's divorce helped me realize that love cannot be forced, and that you can never settle if what you want is happiness. Love is not easy, but it should always be unconditional and truthful, respectful and gentle. It didn't matter what people thought of us. What mattered was being at peace with who we were.

Why I Write About Sex

Rachel Hills | Posted 04.08.2015 | Women
Rachel Hills

I used to be intimidated by people who wrote about sex, even long after I started writing about it myself. The irony, of course, is that people now think the same thing about me. That because I write about sex, I must be particularly sexual. To which my internal response is: "No. You don't get me at all."

How Shame Affects Our Dating Relationships in Middle Age

Michelle Martin | Posted 04.02.2015 | Fifty
Michelle Martin

One of the most painful and life-impacting human emotions is shame. Shame is a powerful universal emotion that often emerges when we feel deeply vulnerable about something and believe that others have the power to judge us, and ultimately reject us.

5 Insights on Depression From Someone Who Suffers

Diana Whitney | Posted 04.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Diana Whitney

Here are five writers who have helped me survive -- poets and spiritual teachers, some who have known depression intimately. Use their words as you like. Disregard what doesn't speak to you. This is not a self-improvement program, only a suggested reading list. Ask for help. You are not alone.

It's Time To Change Our Approach To Sexual Assault

Rachelle Menn | Posted 03.31.2015 | Women
Rachelle Menn

When it was over and he was snoring loudly on the couch while I lay shivering on the floor, the last thing I thought was sexual assault.

Claire Fallon

Jon Ronson Calls Internet Shaming 'Appalling.' Here's Why He's Wrong.

HuffingtonPost.com | Claire Fallon | Posted 03.25.2015 | Books
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Common Internet wisdom would have it that for every mass trend or movement, there must be an equal and opposite backlash. For Twitter shaming,...

How a Health Scare Became My Teacher

Roxanne Hobbs | Posted 05.18.2015 | Women
Roxanne Hobbs

Yet this glimpse of a life with no guarantees is worth sitting with for a while longer. Buddhism teaches that nothing is permanent. The only certainties are sickness, old age and death. Rather than being morbid, this is about an enlightened approach to living.