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What's Communication Got to Do With... Lasting Love?

Mark Baer | Posted 02.10.2016 | Healthy Living
Mark Baer

Try and assess the ratio of positive to negative comments you make to each other. Chances are, you may need to make some adjustments in that regard, if you value your significant other and hope to celebrate many more love and romance-filled Valentine's Days together.

How Memes Are Hurting Trauma Survivors

Margaret Howard | Posted 02.09.2016 | Impact
Margaret Howard

Here's the thing about this saying, attributed to Lao Tzu (just below, in quotes), and others like it, which are very popular on the interwebs: It's (...

Can We Start Over? How to Apologize To Kids and Why

Psyched in San Francisco | Posted 02.01.2016 | Parents
Psyched in San Francisco

Believing you could be jeopardizing their healthy development can be paralyzing. Lots of parents find themselves here at one point or another. If you find yourself tossing and turning, know that you are not alone and listening to this worry will help you turn things around.

Is Your Podiatrist a Christian?

Tara Hedman | Posted 01.27.2016 | Healthy Living
Tara Hedman

The client has been coming to sessions with me for several months when he asks, "Are you a Christian?" I respond, "Is that something that's importa...

How to Bounce Back After Failure Smacks You in the Face

Leona deVinne | Posted 01.26.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Leona deVinne

This past week I messed up, ROYALLY. I was horrified when after arriving home from being out of town for my dad's funeral, I glanced at a paper calen...

The Common Source of Lack of Confidence, Passion, & Trust

Michelle Bersell | Posted 01.22.2016 | Women
Michelle Bersell

Lack of self-confidence, passion, and/or trust all have a common source - shame. A simple definition of shame is anger turned inward. The anger th...

What It's Like to Be a Mother With Anxiety

Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. | Posted 01.19.2016 | Parents
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.

They all finally flew out the door on time. When I could hear the bus roll up the street, I felt some relief. They would be gone soon. I proceeded ca...

Nude Photos at My Highest Weight Ever? Yes Please!

Lesley Stedmon | Posted 01.14.2016 | Women
Lesley Stedmon

My hangup about visibility came up for me before I was even having the photographs taken. What did it mean to be seen? You're talking to a woman who didn't even get University graduation photos taken. I have lots of energy circulating around being seen, success and recognition.

What to Do About the People Who Blame You for Everything

Nancy Colier | Posted 01.13.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Nancy Colier

My recent post, "When You're In Relationship With A Blamer," inspired overwhelming feedback, both from people who feel they receive blame and those wh...

My Son Is A Heroin Addict, And I Am Without Answers

Allyson Aabram | Posted 01.07.2016 | Healthy Living
Allyson Aabram

Every day, I wish and pray this chapter of our life will pass. But I cannot control when the page turns. I can at least put the secrecy behind me. I believe our power cannot be usurped by things outside of our control. However, shame can immobilizes us when we hold it close.

How to Help Friends In a Shame Spiral

Lev Raphael | Posted 01.02.2016 | Healthy Living
Lev Raphael

We've all felt the power of shame. We feel exposed, totally flawed, and hopeless to do anything about it. Shame can be so devastating that all we want to do is hide.

A Hater's Guide to New Year's Resolutions (aka Self-Improvement Through Self-Acceptance)

Psyched in San Francisco | Posted 12.31.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Psyched in San Francisco

Authored by Pilar Dellano for Psyched in San Francisco Magazine. Pilar is a licensed marriage and family therapist who is passionate about helping her...

The Manly Pursuit of Desire: Islam and the Fear of Compulsory Heterosexuality

Perry Brass | Posted 12.30.2015 | Books
Perry Brass

I have just finished reading an advance copy of a remarkable debut novel called Guapa, by Saleem Haddad.

When Forgiveness Isn't a Virtue

The Establishment | Posted 12.30.2015 | Women
The Establishment

My own lived experience and the experience of reading hundreds of letters from survivors of abuse has led me to this conclusion: You don't have to forgive anybody ever. Further, forgiveness can be bad for you.

How To Use Guilt To Spice Up Your Sex Life

Pamela Madsen | Posted 12.28.2015 | Fifty
Pamela Madsen

Guilt can keep us "in line," and take over our lives and convince us that we are "bad people" and stop us from living our lives fully. Guilt is a tricky number. But guilt can be an aphrodisiac too. Some of the best sex is so good exactly because we are so bad!

Why You Shouldn't Feel Ashamed of Your Credit Card Debt

NerdWallet | Posted 12.22.2015 | Business
NerdWallet

From a young age, I knew what a burden credit card debt could be. For a time, while my dad was in grad school, my parents supported our family on scho...

Why Is Grief Linked To Shame?

Tim Lawrence | Posted 12.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Tim Lawrence

People believe that grief is an obstacle when it's anything, but instead, grieving is the pilgrimage by which you create the conditions such that you are able to face the inevitable obstacles that arise amid loss.

You're Sleeping? For Shame!

Michael Larson | Posted 12.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Michael Larson

When it comes to sleeping, well established to be as important as exercising and eating right, the story is much different as our pride gets turned upside down. We're proud of our sleep deprivation.

TV Tells a New Story About Sexual Assault

Michelle Scalise Sugiyama | Posted 12.10.2015 | Science
Michelle Scalise Sugiyama

As a species, humans are heavily dependent on cooperation for survival; consequently, we don't want stories of our transgressions to get around, for fear of being ostracized by our social network.

Things I Learned From My Time as a Phone Sex Operator

The Establishment | Posted 12.07.2015 | Women
The Establishment

I learned about shame, and how it silences our true selves. And more importantly, that we all have it -- so many people share the same fetishes, need the same conditions to feel safe, to get excited, to achieve pleasure, to feel their fantasies are fulfilled.

An Open Letter to My Depression: 4 Ways I Defeat You Every Day

Liv Raimonde | Posted 11.25.2015 | Healthy Living
Liv Raimonde

You may always be a part of my life. I will give you that. But you will never define me. You do not make me who I am. I will have good days and I will have bad days but that is okay, because no matter what I will wake up every day and value the beauty of life that you shielded from my view for so long.

Rough Day for Your Teen? Give Him a Smooth Finish with Parental Intelligence

Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. | Posted 11.20.2015 | Parents
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.

When you understand his mind, then quite naturally solutions will emerge. You don't really know the overarching problem yet. The grades are just the behavior that is sending a message. It is your job to decipher that message. That's using Parental Intelligence.

5 Reasons Why I'm Not Ashamed Of My Mental Health Condition

Rachel Griffin | Posted 11.20.2015 | Healthy Living
Rachel Griffin

f you stigmatize me, that's your ignorance, not my truth. Cool people, who are educated about mental illness and confident in their own mental health, don't stigmatize. Stigma is dated, cruel and just plain wrong. Get educated about mental illness and come over to the cool side.

Why It's Time to Open Your Blinds

Tara Hedman | Posted 11.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Tara Hedman

If you've ever been to Colorado Springs, you know we're located about seven inches from the sun. Anyone here with windows facing West in the summer...

Hurting Girl - A Music Video About Shame & Suicide

Mythic Bridge | Posted 11.13.2015 | Teen
Mythic Bridge

Mythic Bridge participant-turned-mentor, Alexis Ariel Plaza, debuts her new video about bullying, adolescence, and the power of self-worth. "We're ...