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An Open Letter to Black Women About Mental Health

Minaa B | Posted 07.02.2015 | Black Voices
Minaa B

I was raised to be a strong, black woman who could handle her own emotions -- not ask someone to help me sort them out. How dare I need treatment for feeling worthless and for being bullied when I come from a lineage of ancestors who used strength and endurance as a way to survive?

Why Are Women So Vicious Toward One Another?

Melissa Mae | Posted 07.02.2015 | Women
Melissa Mae

Everywhere I look lately on social media I am inundated with women tearing one another down. Whether it's an article on the Kardashians, the newest Victoria's Secret campaign, or the hottest Instagram sexy selfie seductress--we women are downright vicious in the comments sections.

Opening Wider and Diving Deeper Into the Immeasurable Beauty and Pain of Life

Jesua | Posted 06.29.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Jesua

It's not a spiritual requirement to be fascinated by what inhibits our greatest aliveness; and somehow compelled to uncover and reveal surprising path...

When Did Being Kind Fall Away From Our Everyday?

Gregg McBride | Posted 06.18.2015 | Media
Gregg McBride

Next time we see someone in the media who we think deserves our critique, our judgment, or even our hatred, let's take a deep breath in and let a deep breath out -- and be reminded that we're all struggling to define ourselves and to live our lives in the happiest ways we know how.

Lessons Learned From Being The 'Fallen' Daughter of a Pastor

Nancy Laws | Posted 06.04.2015 | Black Voices
Nancy Laws

I was one of those girls who looked down on teenage moms and women in the church who had children out of wedlock. I couldn't imagine what on earth could convince someone to make such a stupid and embarrassing mistake. I was sure that I would remain a virgin until marriage.

Breaking Free of Silence and Shame

Dani Bostick | Posted 06.03.2015 | Women
Dani Bostick

At 36 I walked into a police station and reported a crime that happened nearly three decades ago. In doing so, I gave voice to the voiceless child who endured years of sexual abuse by her swim coach.

How to Stop Being So Self-Critical: ANGTFT

Tara-Nicholle Nelson | Posted 05.27.2015 | Healthy Living
Tara-Nicholle Nelson

"But about a month before my friend Pammy died, she said something that may have permanently changed me. We had gone shopping for a dress for me to we...

The President's Tweets and the Future of Shame

Deepak Chopra | Posted 05.26.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Deepak Chopra

Last week the new Twitter account @POTUS of President Obama became a lightning rod for the worst in social media behavior. Within minutes of its setup...

Are You Addicted to Judging Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"I'm such a jerk. How could I have said that?" "I'm a loser. I'll never get anywhere." "I'm so stupid. I should have learned this by now." "I don't fi...

Shame and Me

Esby Rain Duncan | Posted 05.21.2015 | Healthy Living
Esby Rain Duncan

I have been running from myself my entire life. That is the truest statement that I know. It's hard to say, hard to take into myself. But there it is....

Messages From the Playground: Healing Homophobia Before it Begins and Preventing Bullying Before it Starts

Chris Tompkins | Posted 05.21.2015 | Gay Voices
Chris Tompkins

Talking about shame, we are exposing it and nipping it in the bud. Having uncomfortable conversations with children at a young age doesn't put them at risk, instead, it does the opposite. It keeps them from risk.

I'm Admitting My Shame: I. Am. A. Crowdfunder.

Rebecca Jane Weinstein | Posted 05.19.2015 | Money
Rebecca Jane Weinstein

As a three-time crowdfunder let me tell you a little secret: almost no one gets rich. There are a few exceptions, those are celebrities and people pre-selling really cool gadgets.

Are You Causing Your Own Suffering?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Many people, even those who are not alone and have plenty of money, spend much time suffering. It is obvious what the cause of suffering is when someo...

Gay Men and Bottom Shaming (VIDEO)

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 05.18.2015 | Gay Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

2015-05-18-1431962062-5981619-ScreenShot20150518at11small.jpgIn my latest video I break down the psychological nuts and bolts of why we tend to label and judge sexual roles and the gay men who fill them -- pun intended. I describe how this common practice can be limiting, both individually and collectively, as well as what we can do to challenge bottom shaming so that we can all grow, heal, and have better sex. Heels up!

My Lesson From a Homeless Man

David R. Hamilton, Ph.D. | Posted 05.14.2015 | GPS for the Soul
David R. Hamilton, Ph.D.

My soul so wanted to speak, to say something that might make him feel less lonely; it even urged me to hold his hand for a while, but I was embarrassed by how I was feeling in that instant. I simply smiled, touched his hand lightly, stood up and walked away.

Stuttering Is No One's Fault

Katherine Preston | Posted 05.12.2015 | Healthy Living
Katherine Preston

These are the facts: stuttering is not caused by psychological trauma, unsupportive parenting or mental neurosis. Rather, stuttering is a genetically influenced, neurological condition.

How This Mom Reformed Her 'Inner Mean Girl' Once and For All

Michelle Martin | Posted 05.08.2015 | Women
Michelle Martin

One reason why being a mom makes us so vulnerable to self-bullying is because the stakes are so high.

The Mother Shame We All Share

Jessica Rosenberg | Posted 05.10.2015 | Parents
Jessica Rosenberg

I'm a mom who takes good care of her kids, but crappy care of her house. I'm a writer who loves to write, but who rarely lets herself write what she loves. I'm a friend who can't seem to write to her far flung friends. I'm just a woman trying to face her shame so it loses the control it has on her life.

Why I Chose Anti-Anxiety Medication

Elli Thompson Purtell | Posted 05.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Elli Thompson Purtell

Anxiety can make you a prisoner to your own mind. It exhaustively beats your spirit to a pulp. It doesn't go away no matter what you try and how badly you want to change. When decided upon thoughtfully and responsibly, medication can be a lifesaver.

2 Things Parents Need to Grow

Anastasia Gavalas | Posted 06.27.2015 | Parents
Anastasia Gavalas

Providing children with opportunities to build self-confidence and a strong sense of self is what roots them. Individuals who successfully navigate parenthood construct a solid foundation.

The Catch-22 of Shame (And How to Begin to Fix It)

Don Joseph Goewey | Posted 06.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Don Joseph Goewey

Shame is rough on us. It punishes us for our mistakes and drains the joy out of our triumphs, leaving us bereft with its conclusion that we're not goo...

To Resolve or Manage Conflict, You Must Address the Actual Cause of the Problem

Mark Baer | Posted 06.21.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I recently had the most fascinating consultation with a gentleman who was interested in the possibility of my representing him as his lawyer.

Life Is Like Physics

Mark Baer | Posted 06.21.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

What parents seem to forget when they are divorcing or their relationship is ending, is that children are expensive.

Teaching Is Not a Blood Sport

Lev Raphael | Posted 06.20.2015 | College
Lev Raphael

Teaching isn't combat or coaching, especially teaching creative writing. We're not in the classroom to humiliate and harden our students as if they're going into the cutthroat world of business or getting ready for the next football game against a team with no losses. Our role should be to help them grow as writers by identifying what they do best and where they need to do more work.

The Politics of Shame and Pride

Olivia Wilson | Posted 06.16.2015 | Gay Voices
Olivia Wilson

Shame. It governs our lives in more ways than we'd want it to. Any cringe, embarrassment, infraction of social norms; It is a learnt mechanism to pull us back into a narrative that we have been told our whole lives.