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The Politics of Shame and Pride

Olivia Wilson | Posted 04.16.2015 | Gay Voices
Olivia Wilson

Shame. It governs our lives in more ways than we'd want it to. Any cringe, embarrassment, infraction of social norms; It is a learnt mechanism to pull us back into a narrative that we have been told our whole lives.

Taming the Beast: How I Stopped the Blame Game From Controlling My Life

Lauren Kruczyk | Posted 04.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Lauren Kruczyk

I escaped the cage and found freedom from the wood pellets and stale feeder food. Maybe certain people tried to look for me; maybe they didn't. I didn't care. I was a hamster with a plan. I came to a fork, took the road less traveled and began running like my life depended on it (and hey, maybe it did).

Polio, Cancer - One Nemesis May Counter the Other

Joseph Cooper | Posted 04.10.2015 | Books
Joseph Cooper

For those of us who were spared by fate and vaccine, Philip Roth's Nemesis charts polio's course and brings to mind the friends and neighbors who suffered the withering and the life-long incarceration of limbs.

My Indian Parents Divorced And It Was The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Us

Nishima Gupta | Posted 04.08.2015 | Divorce
Nishima Gupta

My parent's divorce helped me realize that love cannot be forced, and that you can never settle if what you want is happiness. Love is not easy, but it should always be unconditional and truthful, respectful and gentle. It didn't matter what people thought of us. What mattered was being at peace with who we were.

Why I Write About Sex

Rachel Hills | Posted 04.08.2015 | Women
Rachel Hills

I used to be intimidated by people who wrote about sex, even long after I started writing about it myself. The irony, of course, is that people now think the same thing about me. That because I write about sex, I must be particularly sexual. To which my internal response is: "No. You don't get me at all."

How Shame Affects Our Dating Relationships in Middle Age

Michelle Martin | Posted 04.02.2015 | Fifty
Michelle Martin

One of the most painful and life-impacting human emotions is shame. Shame is a powerful universal emotion that often emerges when we feel deeply vulnerable about something and believe that others have the power to judge us, and ultimately reject us.

5 Insights on Depression From Someone Who Suffers

Diana Whitney | Posted 04.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Diana Whitney

Here are five writers who have helped me survive -- poets and spiritual teachers, some who have known depression intimately. Use their words as you like. Disregard what doesn't speak to you. This is not a self-improvement program, only a suggested reading list. Ask for help. You are not alone.

It's Time To Change Our Approach To Sexual Assault

Rachelle Menn | Posted 03.31.2015 | Women
Rachelle Menn

When it was over and he was snoring loudly on the couch while I lay shivering on the floor, the last thing I thought was sexual assault.

Claire Fallon

Jon Ronson Calls Internet Shaming 'Appalling.' Here's Why He's Wrong.

HuffingtonPost.com | Claire Fallon | Posted 03.25.2015 | Books
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Common Internet wisdom would have it that for every mass trend or movement, there must be an equal and opposite backlash. For Twitter shaming,...

How a Health Scare Became My Teacher

Roxanne Hobbs | Posted 03.18.2015 | Women
Roxanne Hobbs

Yet this glimpse of a life with no guarantees is worth sitting with for a while longer. Buddhism teaches that nothing is permanent. The only certainties are sickness, old age and death. Rather than being morbid, this is about an enlightened approach to living.

I'm a Recovering Hoarder

Tara Hedman | Posted 03.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Tara Hedman

When I recently arrived for a hotel stay, I hadn't been in the room for two minutes before I found myself flitting around hiding things. The maps t...

Are You Struggling With Struggle?

Sara Arey | Posted 03.02.2015 | Business
Sara Arey

How much have you thought about struggle? If you're like most people, you try not to think about it. And yet you think about it a lot, especially about how hard it is and how much you hate it.

What Happened When I Broke Up With Anxiety

Monica Stevens-Kirby | Posted 02.27.2015 | Healthy Living
Monica Stevens-Kirby

I'm no expert, but of all the things I've given up, anxiety is my best so far. I sleep at night. I remember to eat. I listen for my laughter in movement and my strength in stillness. I am dating Mindfulness. I think Mindfulness is The One. I'm okay with all of this, all of me.

Is Social Media Testing Our Morals?

Michele Nealon-Woods | Posted 02.26.2015 | Technology
Michele Nealon-Woods

Every day, I learn so much about the world through the eyes of my children. My boys are 15 and nine and, like so many kids their age; they are significantly more fluent with technology and social media than I ever will be.

Fifty Shades of Blush: Why Is It So Hard to Talk To Kids About Sex?

Deborah M. Roffman | Posted 02.20.2015 | Parents
Deborah M. Roffman

Psychologists tell us that denial is the mind's first defense mechanism against anxiety. So, what exactly, are we so afraid of? And, exactly what kind of harm do we fear?

Fifty Shades of Growth: A Psychotherapist's Invitation to Action

Keri Nola | Posted 02.20.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Keri Nola

As a sexual health educator and psychotherapist, it may or may not surprise you to know that I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey. I've always been inc...

Get Real (It's Not As Bad As You Think)

Danielle Vaughn | Posted 02.20.2015 | Healthy Living
Danielle Vaughn

Like the process of the caterpillar becoming a butterfly, it may feel like a struggle, but it's worth it. When we clear out the debris of shame, resentment, sadness and disappointment and get real with how we feel, we can then spread our wings and become free.

The Secret Life of a Teenage Caregiver

Michelle Hanson | Posted 04.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Michelle Hanson

I hated the anger I felt towards him, hated the way I treated him in his moments of weakness. I hated the doctors that gave him the opiates that eventually took over his life, and I hated the disease that robbed me of the father that had taught me to play baseball and make the best ice cream sundaes in the world.

Can We Actually Talk About Recovery This Year?

Patrick R. Krill | Posted 04.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Patrick R. Krill

So as we move ahead in this new year, let's all resolve to look for the other side of the story when it comes to addiction, and let's be willing to show that our intellectual and emotional capacities for discussing the issue go beyond the bad news.

Understanding and Overcoming Our Guilt, Shame and Anxiety

Dr. Peter Breggin | Posted 04.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Dr. Peter Breggin

Why do we human beings suffer so much from the demoralizing emotions of guilt, shame and anxiety? Over many centuries, answers have varied from our bi...

What Are the Lies You Tell Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.06.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The path to enlightenment is shifting out of the lies and into truth. Practicing these steps whenever you feel anything other than inner peace is a powerful way of getting there!

The 'Somebody' Syndrome: Are We Milestone Biased?

Kat Cowley | Posted 03.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Kat Cowley

This isn't about hurtful comment vindication. Upsetting comments and their narrators will come and go -- what it is about a collective cultural tolerance.

Inspire Healthy Self Esteem in Your Children in 2015 By Moving Away From Shame-Based Parenting

Sherrie Campbell, PhD | Posted 03.10.2015 | Parents
Sherrie Campbell, PhD

Parents who use shame to discipline may feel the job is getting done, and maybe, on a behavioral level, there is a change but the effects of shame on long-term success and self-esteem in children show that shame doesn't lead to lasting change.

Vulnerability and the Art of Family Maintenance

Joan Moran | Posted 03.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Joan Moran

In a profound sense, vulnerability is the path to self-reflection. It is at the moment you become emotionally honest that you are more conscious of listening and understanding. Once your suit of armor has been removed, you can bring choice, strength and opportunity to the stressors in life. So take a leap of faith and embrace the positive aspects of learning to be vulnerable.

Here's to a Shameless 2015

Anjhula Mya Bais | Posted 03.07.2015 | Impact
Anjhula Mya Bais

As the year begins, let us ask ourselves why we continue to pretend or not acknowledge what there is to acknowledge?