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Maybe Obesity Isn't the Problem

Kelly Coffey | Posted 12.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Kelly Coffey

In my case, obesity was a symptom, and not the problem itself. I wish someone had told me before I had gastric bypass surgery that my real issues were shame and addiction. Getting thin wasn't my solution -- it was what made me miserable enough to finally get well.

I Am Not Anonymous

Allison Hudson | Posted 11.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Allison Hudson

Addiction is wretched, but recovery is righteous. Recovery is possible. Recovery is living up to the spirit that is me. I can't imagine why I would I ever choose to keep that anonymous. It's who I am.

Your Bogeyman: Whether You Stalk Him or Face Him...Defeat Him

Michael Rohrer | Posted 11.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

I recently saw a production of Stalking the Bogeyman at New World Stages in NYC. The play tells the true story of David Holthouse: the rape he endured in 1978 as a 7-year old, and his plan, as an adult, to murder his rapist.

How I Found Opportunity In Sharing My Secret Disorder

Sandy Rosenblatt | Posted 11.25.2014 | Women
Sandy Rosenblatt

I was positive people wouldn't accept me if they knew I pulled out my hair. And I was even more positive that if they did find out, if they didn't judge me for pulling, they'd reject me for the fact that I didn't know why I was doing it, and that I wasn't able to stop myself.

Shame Is More Stressful Than Work

Don Joseph Goewey | Posted 11.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Don Joseph Goewey

Eventually, a shame-based mind represses its mistakes to avoid feeling bad, preventing the possibility of learning from a mistake, which only increases the likelihood of repeating the blunder. Thus, mistakes can't teach us anything. We become afraid to take risks, which limits our growth.

9/11... A Rude Awakening

David Kanegis | Posted 11.11.2014 | Fifty
David Kanegis

Prior to this heinous series of events, the historical question most often asked of Baby Boomers was, "do you remember where you were when President Kennedy was shot?" I don't know a single one of my contemporaries who doesn't.

My Coworker Shamed Me (And I Let Him)

Literally, Darling | Posted 11.04.2014 | Women
Literally, Darling

I just don't care what people think. And usually I don't. But being repeatedly questioned, being made to feel like my life choices and my interests -- the ones that make me happy and content -- were wrong and somehow inadequate, was like a hard blow to the chest.

The Shame Files

Jennifer Pastiloff | Posted 11.03.2014 | Women
Jennifer Pastiloff

I'd take that old snapshot out from the back of my mind and dust it off a little before peering closer. You were beautiful. You were behind the wheel I'd say to the photograph, before putting it back with a few others I'd saved.

The Genius of Marian: Remarkable Alzheimer's Documentary

Marie Marley | Posted 11.02.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

The Genius of Marian is an intimate, poetic documentary about Pam White and her family as they all struggle to deal with Pam's Alzheimer's disease.

Getting to Gay

Henry V | Posted 10.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Henry V

What the hell are you doing here, anyway? OK, that's it. You need to get your ass home! You're fucking 40 years old! You've got kids! You have a wife! It's winter 2009. Just a few months ago everything changed when I acknowledged to my wife Evelyn that I'm gay.

I Am a Woman Reclaiming Body Trust

Hilary Kinavey & Dana Sturtevant | Posted 10.25.2014 | Women
Hilary Kinavey & Dana Sturtevant

My hunger, my appetites, my longings, my skin, my bones, my size are mine for the taking. I take back my worthiness, my belonging in the world of beautiful and diverse beings. I live without apology for the straight lines and curves, living tissue, vulnerable heart that hold my living, breathing manifested story.

Depression and Addiction: We Must Break the Stigmas

Dean Dauphinais | Posted 10.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Dean Dauphinais

The reason so many people don't get the treatment they need is simple: Mental illness and addiction are still shrouded in stigma. It's 2014, but people suffering from mental illness often times don't want to ask for professional help because they fear being labeled as "crazy" or a "whack job."

Are American Parents the Most Insecure?

Dr. Jessica Michaelson | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jessica Michaelson

I don't want my children to feel the anxiety I feel, and that I see all around me. I don't want them to frantically research and read and look outside of themselves to determine what is right from wrong. I want them to be inspired by our family, and feel that they have inherited traditions, values, and wisdom that they can trust.

Shining a Light on Our Dark Secret

Janet M. Neal | Posted 10.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Janet M. Neal

On my 11 hour drive home from vacation yesterday, I listened to about three hours of analysis, commentary, and dialogue on the horrors currently occur...

The Single Inferiority Complex (SIC)

Sasha Cagen | Posted 10.14.2014 | Women
Sasha Cagen

The Single Inferiority Complex describes the often-nagging feeling that single (and sometimes childless) people have that their lives, and even their very selves, just do not measure up to those who are in partnership (or who are parents).

Sex, Shame and Suicide: One Man's Path to Open-Heartedness

Bob Schwenkler | Posted 10.13.2014 | Gay Voices
Bob Schwenkler

My heart, my soul, my truest self had been put on lock down. I'd learned from the world, in a million different ways that who I was was not ok. This is how shame operates.

My Secret: I Was One of Those Girls Who Had Sex With Older Men on the Internet

Erin McKelle | Posted 10.07.2014 | Women
Erin McKelle

Yes, there was something wrong, but it wasn't with me, and my cyber sex was nothing more than a symptom of something bigger. It was my way of showing that I felt out of control and helpless.

Getting Over Single 'Shame'

Sara Eckel | Posted 09.24.2014 | Women
Sara Eckel

If you've been single for longer than you care to admit, it's natural to wonder why or even ask, "What's wrong with me?" This question is particularly common in our can-do culture, which leaves little room for luck, chance or circumstance

3 Big Perfectionism Struggles For Women

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 09.23.2014 | Women
Paula Davis-Laack

Many of us think it's the key to our success, when in fact, it's the very thing leading us away from our true purpose and completely wipes out our energy in the process.

5 Proven Strategies for Releasing Negative Thoughts

Michael J. Formica | Posted 09.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Michael J. Formica

We create our experience by virtue of how we are thinking about a particular situation, good, bad or indifferent. What's important to bear in mind is that if we can think ourselves in, we can always think ourselves out.

6 Ways To Lighten The Weight Of Guilt

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 07.18.2014 | Healthy Living

It's a simple truth that we're prone to making mistakes. While we'd all like to avoid that sinking feeling we get when we've dropped the ball, we're o...

Honor Is a Shame in Shan Khan's Brave New Film

Nancy Cohen-koan | Posted 09.10.2014 | Entertainment
Nancy Cohen-koan

Honor is a fast-moving, even exciting tale of injustice, family and redemption. Will it help to change anything? Let's hope.

I Will Live My Life in Colors, Not Numbers

Temimah Zucker | Posted 09.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Temimah Zucker

It is time to stop perpetuating this cycle of men and women being considered "normal" and "praised" for unhealthy relationships with food.

How I Came to Embrace My Mental Illness

Rachel McKibbens | Posted 09.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Rachel McKibbens

I realize now, I never wrote about living with mental illness because I wasn't living with mental illness. I was running from and fighting with and stumbling through and barely surviving the shame of it.

The Time I Threw Sand In My Cousin's Mouth And Blamed Him For It

Annie Battles | Posted 08.31.2014 | Comedy
Annie Battles

I've always been a little hard to contain. Some people call it joie de vivre, others, my psychiatrist included, call it ADD. One of the mainstays of my personality, and arguably a symptom of the disorder, is extremely impulsive behavior.