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Sheryl Paul

The Life You're Meant To Live

Sheryl Paul | Posted 10.20.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

Somewhere along the road of childhood into adolescence, a belief is transmitted that says: Follow the roadmap that culture presents and you will find ...

Risk Aversion And Anxiety

Sheryl Paul | Posted 10.06.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

I'm standing on the edge of my life, as if on the shores of a cold but beautiful lake. I want to dive in but I'm scared, only the fear doesn't sound ...

The News And Anxiety

Sheryl Paul | Posted 09.30.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

We live in uncertain times, and that statement alone can send an anxious-sensitive personality type into a tailspin. But the truth is that we've alway...

Moment By Moment

Sheryl Paul | Posted 09.07.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

We aren't taught this anywhere in our early life, but the conscious path is largely about slowing down those micro-moments so that we can observe our habitual response, ask if it's a response that serves us, and, if not, choose a different, more loving way.

Nothing Lasts Forever 

Sheryl Paul | Posted 09.01.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

For all humans, but especially the highly sensitives, one of the most difficult truths to accept is that all seasons pass, all stages come to an end, ...

Nobody Is Perfick

Sheryl Paul | Posted 08.25.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

When I was young, one of my favorite books was a collection of four short stories called "Nobody is Perfick." I liked the first three stories, but it ...

Fear Is A Friend In Disguise

Sheryl Paul | Posted 08.19.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

There's a common concept in our culture -- one that I've adopted myself at times -- that fear is our enemy. When we're caught in fear's offspring of a...

10,000 Hours Of Love

Sheryl Paul | Posted 08.11.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

As I say on my blog and in my courses: Don't give up. Hang on. Do the work. It's worth it. It's worth it a thousand times over. It's supposed to be hard. All good things in life require tending and laboring, falling and working. It's how we grow and it's how we learn to love.

'What If I'm Too Young?'

Sheryl Paul | Posted 08.03.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

The spike of the week from my clients and readers who struggle with relationship anxiety comes in at: "What if I'm too young? What if I haven't met my...

'I Wish He Was Funnier'

Sheryl Paul | Posted 07.27.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

The work begins with you, and then is rippled out into our relationships, our community, and our world. That's why naming these thoughts as projections is the first, and often most difficult step, in healing, as it's the one that orients you toward the person that needs the focus of your attention: you.

The Cycle Of Healing

Sheryl Paul | Posted 07.20.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

We learn and heal in ebbs and flows, spiraling around the center of ourselves where our true Self dwells. When we're in a cycle of growth, we burn thr...

When Fear Washes In: Health Anxiety And Death Anxiety

Sheryl Paul | Posted 07.13.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

Fear is a part of life. Sometimes we can keep it at bay, but eventually, with certainty, it will creep in like a red tide on an otherwise calm beach. ...

'I Wish He Was Taller'

Sheryl Paul | Posted 07.07.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

Whatever we water will grow. If we want the thoughts to stop growing, we must stop watering them, change the channel in our mind, and learn to focus our energy on what truly needs our attention. This is how we grow a different, and more peaceful, garden in our minds.

Anxiety Is A Game Of Whack-A-Mole

Sheryl Paul | Posted 06.29.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

That's why anxiety is a game of whack-a-mole: if you whack down one mole (thought) without addressing it from the root, another will quickly appear in its place.

Grief Neutralizes Thought

Sheryl Paul | Posted 06.22.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

The answers aren't in your head. They're in the undiscovered place inside, the well of Self that can only be accessed when you stop and find the courage to take your own hand and listen with kindness and curiosity to what needs to be felt and heard.

A Tale Of Two Moths, Dark Night Of The Soul, And Sexuality

Sheryl Paul | Posted 06.15.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

I met Andrea in my first round of Open Your Heart in May 2013. Every time she posted on the forum, I was moved and inspired by the depth and clarity...

Longing for Desire

Sheryl Paul | Posted 05.20.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

What composes the hymn of longing? What notes comprise the sonata that stirs the soul like a great piece of music, rising up from the depths of oneself like a hand that commands our attention until we grab hold?

Invite Anxiety to Tea

Sheryl Paul | Posted 05.18.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

If anxiety is denied, shamed, or judged, it often shows up at the back door, as what demands to be known will always find its way into awareness for ...

The Untrained Mind

Sheryl Paul | Posted 05.11.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Sheryl Paul

If we act on every thought or feeling that darts through mind or heart we will be as untamed as a toddler. By contrast, when we learn to train the mind and discipline the heart, we learn to act from our values and commitments.

Love Is Not the Absence of Fear

Sheryl Paul | Posted 07.19.2014 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

When we love another deeply, fear will rear its head. Designed to protect the vulnerable heart, fear is the sentry who guards the sacred entrances.

Are You Too Close for Sex?

Sheryl Paul | Posted 03.31.2014 | Healthy Living
Sheryl Paul

You can learn to love the one you're with and create a sex life and feeling of love based on closeness instead of distance and mystery. Despite what the popular culture says, it's entirely possible! And entirely wonderful.

How to Relieve Engagement Anxiety

Sheryl Paul | Posted 01.23.2014 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

Like any process of self-growth and healing, working with the habitual patterns that keep us mired in negative stuck places is a practice.

Grieve and Be Grateful: The Aftermath of the Colorado Floods

Sheryl Paul | Posted 11.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Sheryl Paul

When the voice traipses through my brain that tries to invalidate or dismiss my loss, I shush it aside and continue to allow myself to cry as hard as I need to cry. This is my pain. This is my loss.

If It's Conditional, It's Not Love

Sheryl Paul | Posted 05.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Sheryl Paul

Love is a grace we give one another. Love is sometimes effortful, but it's not based on someone else's effort. Love is what happens when we open our hearts and allow the love that naturally lives inside to flow forth.

When Love Is Longing

Sheryl Paul | Posted 10.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Sheryl Paul

We're wired to equate love with longing, which means that the only time we feel in love and certain is when our partner isn't fully available. We chase. We long. And then we think we're in love.