When my firstborn was just a baby, an artist friend introduced me to his children, who were ages 6 and 8. I was surprised and delighted when each made eye contact, said hello audibly and offered a handshake.
I tell them if they like princesses, choose the ones with admirable qualities. Choose the ones that empower them as little girls. None of this putting your life on hold until prince charming comes around.
I want my daughter to be "normal" much more than I ever thought. You would think that coming from a family of shy people would make me more patient. In fact, it's just the opposite since I know what's at stake.