Parenthood and dating can co-exist but those who manage them well are not struggling to acclimate to newly single lives. And they've healed to where parenthood and dating no longer collide but can share space in their life so they can mindfully and healthfully meet someone new.
I was raised by one of the most badass women I have ever had the pleasure of meeting -- my single mother. My mother wears all black, can quote Vygotsky and wrote her PhD dissertation when I was in elementary school, while typing on our OG Mac computer.
If you're facing single motherhood -- whether by divorce, choice or happenstance, you need support. All the freaking support you can get You're building a new life here, woman! Who you spend time with influence who that new person will be.
Two months later, I celebrated my fortieth birthday in a way I never could have imagined. After years of hard work, sacrifice and a level of organizational commitment that in retrospect was possibly unwarranted, I was an out-of-work single mother of four children.
It's a bad sign when I'm on a date and I miss my dog. If I look forward to drooly, droopy jowls rather than Mr. Comb-over's kiss, it's time to call a cab. Don't get me wrong; I love men. It's just that in a lot of cases, I love my dog more.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with me passing along a compliment to a woman in front of her children, or mine. But I overthought things, and I shouldn't have. Somehow society has convinced me that when I have my daughters, women are off-limits.
Maybe the joy of the season and the love for your kids filled your heart to the point that you've now forgotten the juggling and the exhaustion and the overall monumental holiday undertaking. But I want you to know that I haven't.
You've been on your dating site of choice for weeks without much attention at all. You haven't seen anywhere near the volume you were expecting -- or hoping for. There's nothing wrong with you. But there might be something wrong with your dating profile.
Practicing gratitude has changed our attitude and perspective. Gratitude reminds my children that not receiving Christmas gifts is nothing in comparison to the obstacles other families face due to poverty, homelessness, joblessness, and hunger.
Age appropriateness is a frequent consideration of potential dating partners. In most cases, people will claim to prefer a partner close to his/her age, but in practical applications this isn't always possible.
You should date, and let your kids know about it. Denying your sexuality and need for romantic connection sets a bad example for your children and thrusts too much responsibility on them to care for your emotional needs now, and physical and financial needs in the future.
For someone trying to demonstrate that a former spouse is living with someone else in an effort to have an alimony obligation reduced or terminated, the job of collecting evidence is much easier today.