I see my self-identity in the same way I see most things: a list, in greatest to least importance. I've found I can't use the multitude of hats analogy or some kind of flow chart where circles are connected by lines and entwined in Venn diagrams. I need a list. I need a top shelf.
Dating as a single parent is a whole different game -- one that is played in a foreign language and where the rules are made up as you go along. In addition to the normal dating woes, there are other factors (and people) to consider.
There really isn't a class that you can take, or a way to mentally prepare for all of the ups and downs that can occur when dealing with your significant others ex, specifically when it comes to their children.
Women need to plan for their long-term care and estate planning needs as if they will, one day, be single.
Understand that everything that I impart to you is to cultivate your best you. I can't tell you how to be a man. But I can show you how to be a man of dignity, honor, and grace. Live life with passion and do your best at all times.
Bite your tongue, grit your teeth, put your personal feelings aside and let your children spend time with their father. Your children will ultimately thank you for it. While your children are gone I grant you permission to sit down and relax.
Going through a divorce for the most part no longer carries the stigma it once did, but the toll it takes on you remains the same. My entire life I've only known what it's felt like to have the word "Divorce" attached to me.
I always knew I had a story to tell, but just didn't know when I could tell it without severe consequences.
(Counterclockwise from top right to bottom right: My palette of fresh organic homemade tricolor carrots, sweet potato, butternut squash, Fuji apples...
To my amazing, brave, hard-working single-mom girlfriends, you can't be your children's father and mother, and you should stop trying to be. But you can be -- and you are -- your children's mother. Instead of dad-bashing this Father's Day, encourage your children to celebrate the men who have made a difference in your children's lives.
During the Memorial Day Weekend, I attended the annual Dance Africa Bazaar held in Brooklyn, New York. This is a 3-day event that is held outdoors in front of the Brooklyn Academy of Music.
This shit is hard.
I applied for application waivers, whatever it took to find the right fit for me and my 3-year-old daughter at the time. One thing was for sure: Leaving her behind with family was not an option. We were going to do this together.
There comes a time in life when you have a choice...to laugh and let go. Don't get me wrong, there are times I want to fashion the biggest mirror possible, and hold it up to the people with the thinnest of projections; but I don't.
You're a single, professional woman, and you'd like to find a long-term partner. On the surface, you'd think that finding a mutually rewarding and healthy relationship would be easy, but we all know it is not, and here's why
Not all single parents are created equal. Some of us have it easier than others, and in different ways. Some of us have it more difficult, and in different ways. We can debate until we are blue in the face what constitutes those "better" or "worse" situations.