How can I "celebrate" with my in-laws who are both having a second birthday without their beloved son? How can I lighten up when I worry so much about my daughter? How can I lighten up when I'm grieving my love of 20-something years?
If you're facing single motherhood -- whether by divorce, choice or happenstance, you need support. All the freaking support you can get You're building a new life here, woman! Who you spend time with influence who that new person will be.
No two people on the planet are as invested, devoted and in love with our sons as the two of us. No two people agonize over their pain or delight in their joy as we do. Leaving space to love one another expresses to our children how deeply we love them.
No matter what your status as a parent is -- whether you're happily married, kinda-happily married, partnered up without the paperwork, or like me, doing it on your own -- there is really just one simple objective: to do the best you can.
When I was pregnant, I had many opinions and ideas about what life would be like after I had children -- how I was going to be as a parent, how my child would be and how I would raise my child in a warm, loving, two-parent home. Well, not everything in life goes as planned.
"I don't want to be married anymore." A whisper moved across my husband's lips as if he couldn't find his voice. A whisper, a barely audible cluster of words, were about to change the trajectory of my entire life.
Dear God, Just thought I'd check in. You've been with me every step of the way through this parenting stuff so far. And I could really use an ear ...
It's a bad sign when I'm on a date and I miss my dog. If I look forward to drooly, droopy jowls rather than Mr. Comb-over's kiss, it's time to call a cab. Don't get me wrong; I love men. It's just that in a lot of cases, I love my dog more.
These words describe the journey I've been on since my divorce. These words aren't just for a new year, but for a new me. The divorced me. The single me. The independent me working on a new life chapter.
Does anyone actually love Valentines Day? Or are the vast majority of us just keeping up appearances? Going through the motions with buying some cho...
You may not have a romantic partner, but as a parent, you have plenty of love to celebrate. In fact, take advantage of the day to honor all the people who bring love to your life, including your children, family and friends, and your glorious self. Here are few tips for making the day special, even without a significant other:
These were the days that I thought that I was going to lose my mind. These were the days that I never imagined when I longingly dreamt of motherhood. These were the days that I questioned my decision and ability to be a single-mother.
Instead of feeling like my life is over now that I'm a thirty-something divorcee, I feel is if my life is just getting started. I guess you could say that I woke up one day and finally realized that being divorced is not the end of the world, and that I was not only moving on, but actually happy.
If you love your children as deeply as you say and as I know you do, then I invite you to pay closer attention to how you are showing up in your own life and relationships.
When I asked him how he was able to rebound, he simply said that he noticed himself slipping and didn't like it. So he decided to change. He was only in 4th grade! No therapy, no coaches, no self help books, no medication. He just decided to change and did the work to make it happen.
If I found someone fast, my son wouldn't remember a mommy who was lonely and alone. And this is precisely how I arrived at the altar a second time -- broken, clinically depressed and desperate for a world that resembled that movie reel of what once was.