It seems that everyone has an incurable "fight to be right syndrome," and it is going from bad to worse. Most people are busy speaking or criticizing harshly while very few are listening to understand.
We've all witnessed it: A monotone whisperer reading from slides. Even if the content was spot on, you'd never know because he lost you at hello. But what if you could combine killer content with Beyonce's ability to captivate an audience?
Learning how to speak well won't guarantee your little pumpkin will get into an elite college or land a great job when he graduates. But I can't think of a single thing in life that's made more difficult by effective communication.
Rethinking the way we perceive stress may actually improve our physical and mental performance. It may be easier to give in to our fears, but you will accomplish much more in life and feel a greater sense of pride for facing them.
Last month I was in a meeting with one of my clients, a senior executive, who let her f*ck flag fly high. In the course of an hour, she dropped the F-bomb so many times that when I left the meeting, I was feeling... well, mixed.
With election time almost here, we see candidates speaking their minds. Are you able to assert yourself when necessary? Or are you surprised when "yes" comes out of your mouth when you meant to say "no"?
Actors want to direct. Directors want to produce. And consultants want to be kick ass speakers. And why not? The pay is good. It doesn't take much time. And it's a lot less heavy lifting than most consulting gigs.
You are trying to convey the tricky mixture of spontaneity, authority, and audience contact, and to do that you have to be able to concentrate on the audience and their reaction, rather than on finding the right word or phrase.
If we listen carefully to our truest inner selves and speak with a greater presence, we can empower ourselves to create exciting new possibilities and become a witness to the reality of our heart's greatest desire come true.
Our inability to express ourselves with clarity, simplicity and vigor is the death of effective human affairs. The light at the end of the tunnel is that we, if we care enough to speak and write properly, will shine.